Living With Husband As Single....need Advice Please

Good thing to get that call out of the way and make some peace at home. Regardless of what the future holds, it’s good to be peaceful at home.

Why? What will you achieve with this? You actually gave him power to use over you. Now he knows that he can hurt you and torment you by not calling your parents. If his actions shouldn’t matter to you then don’t give him the reigns. It should just not matter. You call your parents, you do what is right for you. You make yourself your first priority and make time for your other priorities in life.

Quite possibly he is buying time too. He is secretive and possibly has mentally checked out too. This calling parents thing shouldn’t even be an issue. Let it go for now. Work on other big issues like the lack of trust and secretiveness. If you make this an issue, he will continue to maintain his distance.

Think of the MIL issue that you resolved as a way to get his guard down. Instead of bringing up another issue and making him even more on alert, just let it be. Your plan to settle yourself and get financially independent, emotionally and physically strong are all excellent points. To be emotionally strong, his calling or not shouldn’t bother you so much. Just be your best self and forget about what he has done in the past and is doing now. He is using your emotions against you. Try not to show him your vulnerability.

It is ok anusri to make amends in a relationship even if you aren’t at fault. Sometimes we do it for ourselves not for others. You did this for you. Now slowly get over the fact that you did this and there is no use. There is a positive. You are now not on pins and needles about the impending doom you were facing. You are in a slightly better situation. You have some goals now. Work towards them and slowly reassess your situation. You did buy yourself precious time. This will help you get independent and strong.

You also have time to work on your daughter and make her have a good home life and a thriving relationship regardless of how you feel about each other. It isn’t easy, kids notice everything but if she sees that you aren’t affected much by any of it, chances are she will be in a better frame of mind as well.