Hello ladies, I am in a situation of sinking boat and not sure what to do to save myself from sinking. Its been 12 years of my married life with 2 beautiful daughters 9yrs and 16 months old. If I look back all these years there was no single happy moment with my husband that I can think of, instead so much of history filled with many fights like every week, tearful moments, heart hurting situations. Although I was never happy with my married life because of my husbands selfish, carelessness and too bossy behavior towards me, being mindful about my daughters future who are also very much connected to him, I got used to the life how it was and leading the life with same fights and getting back together after couple of hours or a day. But now it has been more than 4 months that my husband spoke to me or communicate in any other way like at least text for any necessary daily based things too. we are living in the same house as normal as usual and kids getting the same attention..etc except the communication with me. There is everything in his life as usual except me. May be I can say we are separated unofficially. The reason for this situation is me and his mom had a few words exchange and it was a small fight. The sub story behind this fight is, they insulted my parents when they came to their house and I have had asked my MIL with a raise of my voice and of course my MIL has raised too, but was never counted by my husband. It was just like any other DIL and MIL fight that had happened and was the first time in this 12 years of my married life with my MIL. As initially planned, we reached to my parents house and my husband had an aggressive discussion explaining the happened situation to my parents and later we both discussed and I agreed to talk to his mom normally to fix the things happened. Upon my husbands suggestion as he gonna call and talk to them and pass the phone to me, I was waiting....if any peace left in my life, that was the last day for it. He spoke to them for about 2 hrs over the same phone call which I was waiting for my turn and that never happened, instead his behavior changed completely which I have no clue that my husband can behave in such a way so rude to my parents, stopped talking to me and when I asked him why didn't you pass the phone while I was waiting he replied so madly, they said "keep your wife in control". My husband last word to me was "don't expect anything from me from now on". Later the next day he started behaving so impolite, skipping meals and finally he satisfied his ego with a fight with my parents complaining on me and questioning their way of raising me so rudely and disrespectfully. That moment my heart broke in to pieces that all these years I went through so much and craved for a little attention and caring, at least during my pregnancies from him. I ended up always with a feeling that he never wanted a marriage and never want to share him to his life partner from my experiences. But I was never a person gave a small hint of his behavior neither to my parent nor his parents. I hated myself that why didn't I ever questioned his parents how come he was raised like this when his siblings are normal. No clue till today what conversation he had with his parents that day that broke our relation a part completely. But he is all good with his parents calling regularly and having my daughters to talk to them as normal as always with a change of me abandoning from his life. To give a little background about me, I was working and now taking care of my kids as house wife. Just like any other girl I also got married to an NRI working in Virginia and later I also started working after couple of years of marriage. Parents and family in India. Although I worked in past, never had any of my financial control with me. Not that he took over of it, I was the one let him handled it. He is not a person wanted my money ever, but still the accounts and all of money is under his control as he is the one takes care of all the money transactions. Just living for the sake living and trying to self motivate for my daughters well being and their future. Feeling like divorcing him, Not that I really wanted too, but I see no hope with his behavior. His behavior tells me like he is indirectly telling the same divorce feeling of him. Ever since he stopped talking, he is being very cautious to keep his where abouts secrecy from me like I have no clue when will he come back from office, no idea about his travel when had to go on office work...its like your neighbors life style as how we don't know their regular home talk, buyings, out goings, weekend plans etc. He leaves if I sit near him. Now he started sitting separately in different living room so that he barely sees me in a day. But not sure if I am in a right direction or not for divorce. Also worried that I'm not self established and settled too as I am in a comfortable zone till today and many things rolling in my mind the life of a single mom with 2 daughters, especially my older daughter is almost pre-teenager and so attached to him. I never dared to approach him to ask about his behavior as its clear of his hate on me and also since family fights involved in it. Its none other that his mom. He disconnected everything otherwise it wouldn't have been this worst. Living a lonely life with no hope of my future. Please help me with your suggestions and recommendations.