Live In Relationships

ok.. my two cents, the best thing a person who has a history of unhappy relationships should do is to learn to love being on their own. there are better men out there than her husband for sure, but even they cannot bring complete fulfillment . Husband , kids can enrich your lives , but expecting them to be the sole reason for your happiness is an illusion . She has to spend time alone by herself, or else her pattern will continue.. Regarding live in relationships, have seen it work well for many of my western colleagues and friends, in fact for them living together is a unmissable step before marriage. But its a new idea for Indians and especially in India. keeping a relationship alive and healthy requires work and attention and add to that the extra energy required to go against social norm. At the back of her mind, she is never going to stop wanting some sort of an actual commitment. Right now, she is expecting some Prince Charming to help her solve all her issues. Sorry lady, no one is coming , you have to be your own knight in a shining armor.

 

I think your friend will have happier life if she instead focuses on being alone and becoming emotionally stable, independent and happy. Now, she should focus on developing friendships , hobbies, career/ purpose in life. Getting into a relationship to become happy is not wise.

 

If live-in has many cons,is your friend planning to stay in this marriage?

 

your friend is under depression. people in depression will be hold to the nicest word coming from anyone. her patterns are clear. first one failed. 2nd one is failing. 3 also will be fail, if she remains needy. she cannot keep being needy and also expect the man to be giving all the time.

sorry if my answer is blunt .