Limit Interaction With Male Co-worker

Ok, I'm a little upset since yesterday and because I cannot express at home, I was upset, thinking the world hates me because sometimes when I talk, I don't realize what I am saying, especially if I am nervous or sleepy.

For instance, yesterday at Toastmasters instead of saying "Welcome to Toastmasters", I said "Welcome to Table Topics".

So I am thinking because of this social awkwardness I'm scaring away good people, situations, opportunities in my life.

I deserve better. We all deserve better. We were meant for greatness!


Having said that, there is another issue at hand.

There is male co-worker (who is Desi, from same part of India, but on Pakistan side) who works in different building than me (several miles away)

1. I first mentored him (and two others) in our organizations inter-training program. He treated all of us to coffee every now and then.

2. When I encouraged the people I mentored to join Toastmasters, him and one other person joined. Eventually the other person dropped out.

3. This male co-worker is helpful and even nominated me to be President of Toastmasters.

4. But I am reading between the lines, he just wants to join my particular team because it gives a huge pay-raise and it's easier for him to travel. I don't mind healthy, interpersonal relationship between coworkers but

5. He is too friendly, too accommodating. If I need to delegate any work, he is the first to volunteer.

6. I deleted Instagram months ago because he was liking all my artwork. Plus it's just another time-waster

7. I will disable my Facebook account (I barely log in right now). I know if I ask this male co-worker to manager our Toastmasters page he will do it, but I don't want to be dependent on him. I rather get someone else manage our page. Worse comes to worse the FB page will not be updated!

Two people commented yesterday at different instances that we make a good couple. I told one person this guy is married and has two teenage kids. Then the guy replied maybe their marriage is in trouble.

Then I replied they should go for marriage counseling, you can be their counselor, bang their heads together and say, "Make this marriage work!" We joked about it, but somehow I was feeling bad


How to attract other people in my life to have positive, interdependent relationship. At least in the workplace to start with. And certainly avoid these interactions where people think I am a couple with someone .....

 

Oh wow, I didn't think of it that way.

And I was about to push a possibly nice person away.

It's just that no one was ever nice to me like this before and I got scared because I don't know what to expect.

Oh wow!


LOL, people thought you and your friend were "in love". I feel better knowing we can be friends, acquaintances, etc.

I will try not to read too much into things........

 

Well, we cannot change what others believe about us, we can only be our best selves.

If people truly favor us, then weird social quirks won't throw them off.

 

LOL .....hahahahaha... that's too funny!