On her part: A tool(education, independence, awareness) is worth only in the hands of an excellent craftsman. The justification of living together even after abuse (for the sake of kids, for the sake of my aged parents, etc) only come to bite back at a later time. It's a simple logic, right? You kick the donkey to cope with your anger issues and it still comes back to haul the load later, the donkey relies on prayers and astrological reasoning and other reasons to assume that Master would change if it continues to serve in good faith. On society's part: Stop guilt tripping divorced/separated folks. People rush to get back into another relationship only because of this 'push' factor and they are brow beaten to settle with someone who is even 1% better than the previous abuser (the boy who cried for shoes analogy).