Keeping Peace with Husband who always takes his parents side

My husband has always treated his parents as GOD...
In the first year of our marriage, he would be so nice to his parents and not even talk or say hello to y parents...he would do small talks at times, which would tell me that he is insulting my parents and is praising his..
It was the first year and I did not know my MIL by then...I was being nice to both families equally, but was very unhappy that my husband treats my parents crap even after my parents taking care of all the marriage expenditure, sending gifts for us, giving him royal treatments like Son inlaw etc

I started to resent after few months and wanted him to at-least show some respect in his talks towards my parents..Slowly I also started to see my MIL mean, manipulative nature and saw that she tries to control her son and is doing things to get money , emotional blackmail him etc etc...

That was just the starting..since then is a story and its been some 8 plus years and she hasn't stopped..last year it became worse as there were open lies on my face....

after few years of our marriage may be like 3-4 years, I started to burst..for how many years can I keep things inside me? I started to tell my husband some very manipulative things that my MIL does, her taunts, her deeds etc and every time there was a huge fight...i mean HUGE...he would not agree to anything and was ready to leave me...i really suffered a lot as I was made a bad person, I was told that he clearly hates me as a person ( during the fights), and would mentally torture me for days and days by showing his anger and his words...my husband is very good at talking when he needs to ..he would keep getting angry and blaming me for days and days together,,,and that happens till date...

clearly he takes his parents side over me and his mom does things to irritate me, moreover its very obvious that she does not care about our money but all she cares is my SIL..it makes me very sad that she treats my married SIL like a family and us as a separate family when it comes to doing things for us.., but when it comes to us doing things for them, then she is family mother of my husband and demand respect ...

Till date I have never back answered my MIL even once...all my anger is kept inside and I show here respect or may be because my parents taught me to not answer back elders

My Question: Ho do i still love my husband who sides with my only enemy in this world, the only person in the world that i do not like . I know he is the son, but being a husband if he would have just accepted to listen to me , it would have made things easy...i know its not easy to listen anything against parents, but that not my fault if his parents are being wrong and are not being nice to me or my husband ( he ignores that ) or our kid...

Sometimes, I try to ignore and sometimes I just cannot and when I tell him its a fight and If i do not I hate him for taking their sides...

How do i have peace with this..I look at him and remember all the bad things he tells me when i complain about my MIL ..i hate that he take their side or support their wrong deeds over me...

Any solution on how to ignore my husband nature ??? and still love him..