Just want to be left alone

Just be yourself......Thinking too much about inlaws and their expectations will stress you out unnecessarily.....Concentrate on your work and help your husband to join you ASAP

 

Is it just me or does this sound like a typical H talking about wife's parents.

 

Was it clarified before marriage that you're a loner............
Also did you hence decide to marry a non english speaking family.

Whether you accept it or no, they'll remain related to the person related to you. I guess you were better off with a live-in with anyone as compared to a marriage with an Indian whose family still resides in India.

And absolutely no issue in what you want... a lot of indian men need it this way.. same as greenbow mentioend. Don't worry they'll learn it sooner or later and accept you the way you're.
For me, this thread appears like same person under different IDs... with same issue.

 

The problem is not about individuality, the problem is you are speaking half-truth.

When people speak too much about their individuality, ahhhhh, we can smell what the fish is cooking.

 

I am not sure if your expectations are reasonable. But I hope you had made this known to not only your husband but his family also "before your marriage". Because everyone has expectations from every relation. Assuming that your in-laws had wanted to have a nice relationship with their daughter-in-law, then its injustice to suddenly put forward new terms of your own.

 

I am kind of curios why you married into a traditional family if you did not want any relations with them. Most of the women here have tried and tried with IL and gotten shot down and hence are here. You are entitled to associate with who you want, but these people are thousands of miles away, I think it is necessary to be polite to them.

 

Girl if you want to be alone just be alone. As Shilpama rightly said you better deserve to have a live in relationship. Why did you opt for marriage? and that too with a traditional Indian guy? Your previous post says, you have a job with a hefty payment and you are supporting ur husband but do not want to help ur inlaws. And here u say u will find a job for urself. Did u lose the job? Whatever but understand that no one is desperate to have a relationship with you just to extract monetary favours from you. Just let go that stupid attitude and think how u can improve yourself instead of utilizing all ur energy in family deconstruction.