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IVF - Need some advice

Discussion in 'Fertility & Trying to Conceive' started by mrudula, Mar 19, 2007.

  1. Anusha2917

    Anusha2917 Finest Post Winner

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    Hi Suneta. In India is a very generic to answer . Because there are more than 100 good fertility doctors spread across all over India with excellent track records. Plus these doctors are in major metros - Delhi ,Mumbai, Bangalore, Chennai etc.
    If you are specific about a city that becomes easier for you to decide a doctor .
    Since you have already undergone the process once you must be aware of the challenges. When you said you had a previous failed one - did u have any embryos frozen. If yes why haven't you planned to go for frozen embryo transfer.
    Regarding time I would say give this minimum 3 months because from my experience month after month my FET used to get cancelled because of one or the other issue. ( endometrium lining , progesterone levels etc) . .
    All the best. Any further inputs I can help you.
     
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  3. sunetha

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    Hi Anusha, thank you for your reply. I did only one IVF. They retrieve 10 eggs but only 2 embreyo survive and they sent to genetic test and both came negative results. So unfortunately nothing to freeze. They didn't tell me any reason why its came upnormal and why its only 2 survive out of 10. My husband sperm also 15 million after wash, its good number to do IVF. When they do retrieval the doctors said 10 mature eggs. Then, i don't know why only 2 embreyo survive. Whenever i ask questions they never give me proper answer. Very disappointed. 5 years we are trying. I never get pregnant. Not even one. Very sad. Thats why we plan to go to India. We plan to go to chennai.
     
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  4. Janakinarne

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    Hi suneetha..there are lot of factors that eggs not to survive ... first
    1.eggs should be in good quality
    2.the count of ur husband is good but in that how many are good,it means how many are there with out any defeat..means no tail defects,head defects etc
    3.even both are good for each egg they will insert only one speram in ivf(in advance procedure
    4.the both egg and speram should become embryo and should survive until blastocyst...it means day5survice
    5.dont know when you went to ivf and where may be you went to 3rd day transfer
    6.tge embroys should multiply each day by increasing there cells then onl it can survive ...if it stops any where between day 0-5 it won't consider as good embryo.
    7.ur Saying you went to pgs test so the embryo should reach up to 5th day blastocyst ...only blastocyst embryo Wil send to genetic testing
    8.some times due to poor quality of egg or speram the embryo can survive till blastocyst time so they will stop at day 3/4stage that type of embryos won't send to pgs test
    9.finally the embryo survived until blastocyst als no one can say it's good embryo it may contain some defects als...
    Wish you understood now if u have any doubt plz free to ask because I too gone through this stage and now am in my 5th Mon pregnancy....
    Wish you all the best... don't disappoint it's just 5yrs after ur marriage u have lot of time... don't stress your self....all the best
     
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    Hi Sunetha, as @Janakinarne mentioned, there are many reasons why it embryos fail, some we know of, others we don't. Hold your chin up and have faith it will all workout.

    If you had embryos PGS tested and both came back unsuitable for transfer, then that might be the reason you have not got pregnant by yourself. Low quality egg or sperm or both.

    I have been married for more than 10 years and tried for 5 years, including IUIs, and IVF and am finally pregnant. I still can't believe it at times and always scared. touchwood. I can't thank God enough for this blessing.

    I conceived once with IUI, but miscarried. IVF retrieval 1st round- we got only 2 good embryos, so we had to go second round - all PGS tested, both times.

    The one thing my new doctor did (i switched doctors after the first round and you should feel free to do that too, if you are not satisfied with your current doctor and his responses) is that he used less medication. I show high response to even low level meds, so my body went into overdrive the first time with the qty but low on qlty. Second round,my # of eggs retrieved were were good before and after PGS. Even then, I had to do a total of 4 PGS tested good embryos transfers to finally get this one to stick.'

    There are many people in the same boat, so try not to feel alone in this journey. I say 'try' because I know it is difficult and mostly a lonely journey.

    Few things I did, after the successful transfer -

    • Eat healthy always.
    • Drink water(buttermilk/coconut water etc if you are bored of drinking water)
    • restrict unnecessary sugar(chocolate is my weakness and I had continued eating it during previous transfers, completely stopped for 2 months before the final transfer. Don't know whether it had a role in the success, but it certainly didn't hurt)
    • After transfer, do only stretching exercises. Yoga is fine as long as you are not exerting.
    • Take a stroll not a walk. Know the difference. (I went on strolls until i hit the second trimester.
    • Meditate. Visualize. I can't emphasize enough. Identify any mental blocks about the birth of your child, that you may be holding sub consciously and don't even realize. Let these blocks go.
    • Have faith and let it happen. :buenrollo::facepalm:I know you hate to hear that. I did too. One day I just had this moment when I asked myself, how long am I going to put my life on hold for this process? I then made a list of 5 areas I want to improve in the next 12 months, made short term milestones to achieve these goals and got going. Getting pregnant was NOT on the list! Guess what, I got pregnant that cycle and my 5 goals are now no longer a priority.

    Hang in there. Best wishes. It will Happen.
     
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    Hi Janakinarne,
    Thank you for your wish, they told me 10 of them are good quality egg. And 2 of them survived till 5 days thats why they sent to pgs test. I tried IUI 3 times and 1 IVF all failed. The biggest frustration part not even one day my period late..came same date (regular period).. thats why i want to know the reason..but my gynecologist said its normal keep try.. in Canada its not cheap to try again and again..
     
  7. Janakinarne

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    Of course I can understand your frustration and tension als...the reason why it's success and why it's fail is noon one knows..the time has to come...it's just 5yrs onl right...and als 3iui u tried..I have tried more than 10iuis and ivf with frozen two times..mine is more I have conceived before thrice but unluckily can't continue due to spontaneous abortions and even at my home I don't have much support regarding this ...every time I have to make my self strong and went again for ivf in advanced phase and even I didt expect that am going to conceive.. bcoz my fet is done at my day of 23 and am in tensed that I may get my periods at that time...by God grace and mercy I got positive and still now it's going good... everything happens for our good onl...keep trust on God he never failed you..may be he keep waiting u..but not longer time..u soon wil get positive...the quality of the egg is different when coming to embryo quality....it has to survive still day 5blastocyst then onl it's good quality embryo....and even for me they collected 11eggs and 9are fertilized in that 6went to blastocyst remaining stopped at day 4,even they send all 9 to pgs and report came 4are good in quality and remaining with abnormal..two are transfered and at first fet I got positive ... nothing in my hands. .be positive and I think ur hubby is more supportive to u in which in my case I didn't have anyone...
    See periods is just they will show the reason for not conceive I know most of my frnds which they will get there periods once in two months and they conceived immediately after there marriage...it's purely in luck... don't stress much about it...soon u will get positive...if possible visit maduri Amman Temple and rameswaram which I did before my fet and I trust God more than anything.. what ever God u like keep him in ur prayers and wishing your prayers will come true soon....be free if you want any clarification...
     
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    Thank you for your reply, sure I'll go to these temples. I trust in god thats the only hope i have. I don't have any family other than my husband. Because i did love marriage.Thank God my husband is very supportive. And i'll pray for you as well. Take care your self. Thank you again..
     
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    Dear soulful,
    Thank you for your reply, i start to fellow your advice from yesterday. Healthy eating, exercise etc.. i trust in god. Thats the only hope i have now. I really happy for you. Take care your self. I'll pray for you as well. Thanks again
     
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    Thanks for keeping me in your prayers... that's great.. your husband is with in all ups and downs so u no need anyone's help or support..he is enough to make you more strong and healthy..Soon you will get positive news ...all the best.. keep praying...
     

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