Is this really necessary?

Hi All,
This is my first attempt to write, as I always feel that I can never express my feelings in words. This is just an attempt to get over the fobia of writing
Today as I was doing my regular chores in the kitchen my thoughts wandered over something. Just putting them in words. Mind you not to hurt anyone’s feelings.
One of my closest relative touches her husband’s feet as the first thing in the morning, and when I got to know of it, I was really shocked. :hide: I respect our tradition and culture I do wear a mangalasutra, bindi, bangles and toe ring. But touching my husband’s feet (everyday) is something beyond myself. To be frank in my 8 years of marriage not even once have I touched my husband’s feet, more over my husband doesn’t like me touching his feet. :bowdown
It is not that I am against all these, but what I fail to understand is:bonk , do such women really do this out of respect towards their husband? Or is it more of a showoff kind of a thing or something out of tradition or custom or may be just out of habit? I feel it is more of a showoff kind of a thing, because I know many women who on the one hand are always shouting or taunting their husband over some thing or the other and then on the other hand do pooja’s for their husband’s long life and touch their feet in the mornings and during festivals :crazy. So is it more of a habit or a custom or tradition? Why is this done at all? I mean touching husband’s feet n all that.
It is more important to respect the person than following rituals, the most important relationship between husband and wife is Love ,trust, understanding and compatibility. No one is superior or inferior to the other one. More than being husband or wife we are human beings. God made the difference with some intention and not as one is superior to the other & one has to fall to an other's feet :notthatway:.
According to me we only have to bow down to God and our parents and no one else. :exactly:

Thanks for reading this post.
Love,
Deepa

 

Hi Divya,
Thx for the first FB and encouraging me to write. I wish your aunt had a better taste how can anyone start eating in a used plate.

thanks
Deepa

 

Hey I agree with you, calling your PIL's as mom n dad is a complete show off, or may be to impress them initially.
In my relative's case I truly dont know if it is inside her bedroom or where, but I know for sure that she thinks her husband is superior than her and she should be like Sati Savithri kinds or she atleast behaves like that. I guess she has come from a different world. I always say her that she is an educated Illitrate.

Thanks
Deepa