Is my fiance money minded ?

Dear,

I really didn't understand completly.Would you write more cearly about the flight stops and timing.

where does he lives in US?Does he had flight from LA to his place???See you never stayed in US but you are ready to live with after the marriage.Then what will be issues that you never traveled?Everything will be new for you right??You not even married before and that is new thing for you just kidding.

Anyway,marriage is package of two people and not just one person comfort.I don't know his financial situation and looks like you are from higher class income.Don't try to compromise at this stage and if you see any red singles.Prioritize what you want and there is no use of crying later.

try to talk him more and understand him more and see you both suit each other or not.

 

talk to him about all your confusions.this is the time to talk freely only then you will understand each other and see how much he values your opinion.

 

Dear,

Since you are planning to go Hawai then mostly any one could do the same thing.Drive from LA to San jose and no options here and that's pretty much life in US.

Coming to stops in china,I am not sure he had any plan sight seeing.Anyway the amount of time you will be in flight is same and only you would waiting little more time in airports.I am not from LA side ,so I don't know stops in china.May be people who would live in LA can answer you better.

Being little stingy is better than spend thrift.As long he doesn't expect gifts from your parents and saves his money is always better for you.I am not sure he had any plans to show you china though.

But anyway,if you are feeling good with other things,then it's not a big deal to spend extra 5 hours in airports. You will have company right Remember flight time won't increase only little more waiting time.

You wanted to go Hawaii then you can avoid the flight journey for 5 hours right.In the 11 hours gap in china,probably you can save 5 hours by choosing another flight.Some roots are longer than others.Suppose if you travel via Singapore,I am not sure how much will the fight time though.

Anyway bottom line you could save some hours that's all.


I don't know he got deal directly to Hawaii through some carrier with 2 stops in chins and one stop in LA.
If you could fly directly to San Jose also a good idea and go to Hawaii later.If he already booked tickets then you can't do much about it,if not then you can try to get more information from him but don't threaten with your parents can buy the tickets.

 

I am surprised that he is flying into LA instead of SFO ..may be he really got a neat deal. Ur fiance has booked ur flight and a honeymoon to Hawaii(Which is not cheap from any where and during any time of the year)without expecting ur dad to pay for it...I wouldn't classify him as moneyminded.....yet.My suspicion is the trip to India(for wedding) and the honeymoon to Hawaii has cut into his savings quite a bit.
He might be careful about spending .
But here is my sincere suggestion...if this is the only instance of it.I would say let it go.Don't make it an issue.Enjoy the ride from LA to San Jose(you will be doing quite a few of it in the years to come ). You are young and long distance flights are a part of life here .

Please don't talk about how ur dad can finance the trip....it will start the marriage on a wrong foot. U are his wife and you both need to decide how best to spend ur money...don't take this to ur parents or involve them in ur nitty gritty details of spending .
There is also a learnig curve that most Indians go through once they are in US. $100 is not Rs.100. It takes a lot more to earn and save it and it has a lot of buying power. It has to be spent carefully and unlike India we dont have family to get ur back when u are stuck ..we need to keep cash for emergency.

 

Well, I wont say its about him being money-minded, the reality is we all are money minded in this world(except for few saints). We all calculate about money we spend to buy comforts and luxury. Now husband and wife may have different notions about what deal is acceptable in what money. I wont say you are unreasonable in your demand or he is unreasonable trying to save money. What is important is both of you respect each others' expectation and try to adjust accordingly.
I wont suggest asking parents for tickets, as that will be one time solution to what may be repetitive problem. You wont ask your parents everytime you feel your comfort has been comprimised in an attempt to save money.

Coming to specific problem: It is quite common for entry level Indian proffessionals in US to just book the 'cheapest' flight ticket to and fro India. Quite likely, he would be doing that for his own tickets as well. Even when he travelled first time(if it wasn't on company expense). Layovers, hours of stay - for many Indian proffessionals these comforts kick in the calculation only when they have to travel with kids.

 

When is spending wisely is wrong.
Jmo you are getting a great h. He is taking you on a honey moon to hawaii. He plans everything well ahead of time. Enjoy the flight, who cares how long it is you are newly weds and have each other. He is doing everything on his own without demanding anything from your dad. Read some of the other posts here than you will understand the value of his efforts in giving you a warm welcome to his life.
Why will you fall sick. Are you sickly by nature and any change affects you.
Since you are new to international travel just go with the flow and enjoy the travel, honeymoon and long car ride. If you are already assuming you might get sick and complain and whine you will turn off your h's sweet emotions.
Look at the glass as half full instead of half empty.
All the best.