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Is It Possible To Manage Entire Household Works Without Maid?

Discussion in 'Working Women' started by dhivyacc, Sep 6, 2019.

  1. Thyagarajan

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    As a rejoinder and digress, I wish to add here a general observation:

    Housewives ans employed women with or without kids without employing maids for routine chores are found to exercise unconsciously by managing entire household remain sleek & slim fit and enjoy robust health.
    2. Even before wedding they seemed to have been trained by their parents to attend to household routine jobs.
    3. Certain practices as day today habit help their medical bills almost zero.
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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  2. Thyagarajan

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    :hello:Reading through your positive response, I picked up phrase “prime parenting time” & the quote “two punctual in neighbour’s worth one unpunctual”.

    2. I also felt sitting in a wonderful workshop jotting down good points.

    3. Very pragmatic methodical advice to op. Hats off to you.

    4. It is sound to have what one has already and not to sack the one one has already when maids are scarce in the neighbourhood. The bird on hand is worth two in the bush.
    Thanks and Regards.
    God likes onus for His environs rests with maids.
     
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  3. Needtobestrong

    Needtobestrong Gold IL'ite

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    It's very tough but possible to manage without maid but only if entire family is supportive..I.e husband wife and kids too...each person should be responsible for doing the laundry and ironing And folding of their own clothes, should keep their rooms clean and clutter free...should eat at designated mealtimes and wash their own plates cups and help in clearing kitchen and arranging washed cutlery etc..and be ready to run small errands like buying groceries and essentials ...also avoid making mess and clean up spills themselves. For eg of one son has spilled milk on floor he should clean himself..not leave dirty laundry or used cups and there etc,.
    You could invest in dishwasher if interested and if budget allows.
    In India it becomes necessary to sweep and mop if home is on prime area and dusty polluted area and if kids are messy...of you get help with this it becomes easier..
    Most importantly if there is no domestic help then all should not have expectation form you for providing 3-4 fresh meals per Day and make do with one time cooking or cooking once in two days with prep work done in advance and u may need help in vegatbke cutting, atta prep etc..or if cut veggies are available in store you can purchase..if these are managed then quite possible to cope up without maid.
     
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  4. dhivyacc

    dhivyacc Silver IL'ite

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    You are great.. you are seeing a situation in 360 degree angle. :clap2: great ma :thumbup:
    why i posted is , my maid after getting salary she told, she is planning to take around 15 days leave. Actually i got pissed off, but as always.. we cant show them.

    plenty of leaves actually , whenever we go to our hometown , every month 4 days. along with that apr-20 till june 1st week leave.

    all saturdays and sundays leave. sabba mudila. but if she comes she is doing good, atleast 80%.

    I was sick and recovering so all the above statements from her made me think about that decision.
    But on next day, she got fever and till date she is unwell , we were put into a situation to handle everything.

    But your points - only you are to do all the tasks around.Now coming to ur sons. Yes it is better to teach them from a young age to share tasks and to never discriminate tasks as it's not a man's thing to do.. there are so many women how are married have a issue with their spouses' not taking up kitchen or cleaning tasks..and relationships have gone sour..

    Ya sometimes they are doign and sometimes its not working out.
    My sons will help me but my spouse will never.- means never ever.
    he will do in his sister home, parents home but not at our home. will simply sit in sofa and enjoy the day with tv and mobile.

    i dont want the same behaviour to be adhered by my sons. and thats my only concern.
    Thanks i will implement ur idea.




     
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    Ya exactly. They are doing if am unwell and if i asked to do.
    But otherwise they are not doing , they feel all those duties are for the sake of mother they are doing ( changing clothes ie, uniform:confundio1: , even eating, cleaning something etc):facepalm:


     
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    Your MoM's idea looks different. thanks for sharing ! YEah i should try this too, getting single maid itself a big deal now , I should try this option definitely.

    My current maid says, i feel very much satisfied by the way she is being treated and paid thats why continuing etc.etc, but i could not tolerate the long leaves and these little giants always looking messy and it is making me feel if we cut the maid they will learn or listen to my words etc

     
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    Great Rihana :blush:

    when I tried this points system but could not enforce it because when i reduce , they get angry and cranky. I will definitely try this again , your post helped me to re-collect the old memories and i shared with my children.

    we had nice time recollecting those moments

    They agreed to do the same again
    Thank you so much


     
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    Hi @dhivyacc !
    I think you require a maid and doing without that support, would add more trouble to your plate.
    However, that said I can relate to your maid issues , as in India most people have gone through these troubles.
    I have also at times felt and actually tasted life without maids and then have fallen back on them , after learning my lessons.
    So, over time, you'll learn to adjust with your help and they would adjust with your requirements. Also, always while weighing in about how they are doing their work, you should always look at how you alone would do that work ( in living constraints as they do) to compare their out put.
    Over time , you can always try a maid replacement if this one doesn't seem to be working out, because to get a good fit is a hit and trial method , over time wherein both parties with experience over time, come to a convergence and acceptance.
    You also need to clearly define what role is expected of them and talk to them in detail about how and what is non negotiable in terms of your work requirements.
    also, if there is constant problem, try to limit your dependence on the help to a minimum, meaning , try to see that most jobs do not get stuck because of lack of availability . Also if possible, ask your help to arrange another replacement for the long holidays she proposes so that she knows that you'll pay someone else for that period and she would try to curtail her absence.
    All the best
     
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    One can try. After all life is trial and error method.
     
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    Kids!!:biggrin: they never realise it's not for mommy but for their good only after years..
    Everyone of us have been that way..:angel:

    Well there is a passive aggressive technique not sure if this will work..just let them not change their uniform and play around next day they don't get clean uniform to wear..
    If they ask mommy I need new uniform
    Then u say..it's ur mistake not removing it..go deal with it with your teacher..:innocent: :grin:
    I know it might not be the right way..but you know it's off ur hands:tonguecrazy:

    If anyone feel this is very immature way please suggest the op don't do it.. because it is a way of conditional love..and please dont do this on a long term basis..
     
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