As others have already mentioned, this type of situation is not easy for you. It sounds like no matter what you do it won't be good enough for them so the important thing to realize is to start living your life and be confident to stand your ground. You don't have anything to lose if they criticize you anyway. Besides, just because you are a girl it does not mean that your side of the family does not matter anymore after marriage, they are still important (perhaps more to you than your in-laws...who will be there for you if you go through a difficult time? I would hope it would be your mother and father more than your in-laws). Try to get your husband's support as much as possible without alienating him from his family. Do you work? It will give you the excuse to get out of the house for a good portion of each day. Also try to get an independent place for you and your husband if you are in a joint family situation (and limit the in-laws visiting unless they can treat you decently). And yes, you certainly don't need to tell them every detail of your life too, that will help you put up with such people (e.g. what/when you eat, spending habits, and other personal things). Are your parents aware of your difficulty or have any ideas of their own? Good luck!