Earlier we were in nuclear family, and in laws lived in a different city, I.e their native place...but in recent times they’re spending more time here with me, H and toddler...they travel to their native place often and travel to other tourist and temple towns too with family and friends...I m used to the fact that they’re here with us most of the time...the time when they’re out of town I too get little freedom and privacy and chill out in my own way..I’m not working now... Thing is, they keep pestering us to travel to their native place which is a different city...we anyways have travelled there once or twice a year for major festival or function as many relatives are settled there...typically each visit would last some days to a week. But now they’re nagging us to stay with them for many days at their native... I don’t like this .. First of all, I feel we were living abroad, then we would have owed a visit to native to be with in laws... but, we are in India only, and in laws are also in India...but when they are anyways living with us for maximum part of the year, then what I should be the point of us also staying there for long duration in native? They can relax there, and then come back to stay with us right.. Also all the times we went there, I found travel uncomfortable as it would require close to 9 hours journey by road and train..and going with toddler and lot of luggage is so tough... Also they’re not able to take much efforts to make us comfortable with respect to stay, not having proper accommodation or providing guest room in their home, and it’s tough to share room with in-laws so it becomes crowded...in that area no proper maids are there, so tough to manage chores and cooking there...last time we visited for a function they tried arranging a maid for cleaning work during our stay but she didn’t turn up and it was very tough for me as I d to wash utensils and do some chores there also....as in laws are old they can only do limited things, also...the severe and extreme weather climate conditions in native makes me unwell and sick every time...I just can’t afford to be unwell these days, as I don’t have the luxury of taking rest when I’m sick....as many from family circle have their base in native, ILs have their own issues there like their health and physical weakness, lot of relatives visiting, unwell relatives, elder relatives who need courtesy visits, personal work, personal commitment, medical checkup’s etc...so I rarely get a chance to relax or do any sightseeing or shopping or enjoy there.. They don’t have Internet connection there, mobile data and dongles I don’t get proper signal.. And cable connection no proper channels...so no outlet or entertainment... I cannot understand why they keep pestering us to go there for long duration...when they find it tough to entertain...DH can’t stay for many days there, it’s me who has to face inconvenience... This is why I never look forward to going there unless it’s necessary like function etc... Again from past many months they’re nagging me and baby to visit there and stay one or two months..if i was working I’d have told them no leave, but I’m a home maker.... I’d rather just have them staying here, and going on vacation with everyone together...atleast we can relax and enjoy at tourist place which won’t be possible in native... For them it’s prestige issue as relatives will keep asking ... Last time itself, some months back there was about function there...they asked me and toddler to stay for one month prior to function itself...but I shortened my visit to a few days..she sulked and became upset... I don’t think it’s with wrong intentions ...but I’m getting irritated with the thought of visiting again.. Anyone faced this situation, how can I deal with frequent pestering by in laws? Without offending them?