In A Dilemma

1 are u ok with living in a rented place next to ur parents ? if yes then
2 tell ur hubby that U (not ur parents) find it difficult to live together ...u can give n number of reasons ..e.g, kids can be too hard to handle for senior citizens ...they need some peace at this age ...etc etc ...
ask his opinion ...and then search for some very near place ..so that it wd be best for u and ur parents both..all the best

 

1 you could try to talk to your parents about giving them an amount for expenses.
2 move to your husband's city. School can be found there also

 

Best school in the city to learn A,B,C and basic 1,2,3 ? Are going through all this trouble , inconvenience to your parents for that ? Also staying away from husband for this ?
After I have been an adult and lived away for studies my parents home has never felt my own. It is a huge welcoming Punjabi home but I feel like a guest there. My room there has good memories that’s it.
More than money having two kids around will tire your old aging parents I think. My parents home is really clean and neat . Every time I visit with my kids it’s like a war zone there.
Find a rented place or move with your husband ASAP please.

 

@shama146
u said "I can definitely live alone. But problem is if I will tell my hubby that I want to stay alone, he will never agree saying how u will live alone with two small kids. He is also correct in his own way.

Why after marriage a girl becomes a liability? Hubby is telling me to give them a fixed amount every month for our expenses. But my parents will feel very offended if I say this.they will never accept. I know. What to do ? "


--- sweetie ..believe me , i really understand ur problem. first of all u r feeling a bit sad and shunned because ur parents asked u to find a rented space. i dont think u hv become a liability for them .. see dear, u r not alone ..if u were alone then they would not hv mind to keep u with them ..but its a fact that sometimes people (in particular senior citizens) are not ready for children ...forget about senior citizen even i can not handle kids for more than few hours .
in a survey conducted by a famous site , 65% of grandparents replied that "“I love being part of my grandchild’s life, but it’s not the center of my life.”
about one in five cited conflict with the grandchildren’s parents or difficulty juggling work and other time demands to be with grandchildren.
may be ur parents find it exhaustive and tiring at this age .......try to talk with ur mom about arranging a cook or maid for other household chores (for whom u will pay)
-- btw how big is ur parents house? do they own the house or on rent ? if its on rent then u can all move into a bigger house for which u can pay half the amount ..just discuss with ur parents.
but please consider living with ur husband (that will be the best choice).. cuz now a days for primary education even little towns have good schools and in the long run it hardly matters...many of my cousins are from small towns and studied in hindi medium schools but most of them r having better jobs than those whove studied from so called TOP SCHOOLS ..