Sure I am not criticizing anyone for what they believe and neither am I asking them to stop doing what they believe. My view is that it perpetuates the belief that women are somehow inferior and the fact that someone has a daughter means they have to bow down to the man who marries their daughter- in Indian context and for obvious reasons. I don't have PIL who make my life miserable or husband who does not regard me so it does not personally affect me. But I also know many marriages are not like that. If I am mistaken in that belief, then forgive me. I know there are many rituals that are fun and include the bride and groom and other family members and I enjoy them. But to me my dad washing any other person's feet is not acceptable. But if others want to do it, that is up to them. When dowry is totally eradicated and women have equal say in their marriage, no one will care about the impact of such rituals as it will be deemed as doing no harm. But in a scenario where women are expected to leave her family and go to their husband's and accept his parent's as hers (at the cost of forsaking hers) and even after that have to earn the love and trust of their husband (not to mention IL's), it does not help the cause. In this very site I have read many advise "you just got married, win your dh's trust". They are told his parents have raised him and obviously he trust them but you just came into his life...but the bride is expected to consider her H as her everything from the time the wedding is over and leave her family and accept his. But please if any of you like such customs and it makes you happy, go right ahead. P.S- If the custom is western, that does not make it more palpable. A traditional western wedding had something like "wife should obey husband" but I am sure that part of the vow is almost completely removed from marriage vows. At least I have not heard any bride promising to "obey" her husband. Even William and Kate's wedding (as traditional as a western wedding can get) did not have that. If men opening doors or standing up when a women walks in had to do with demeaning a man and establishing superiority of women, I would be equally opposed to it.