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Are you sure his colleague isn't the spoilsport here? I mean, you should not be going on what one of his colleagues say and jump to conclusions. You know your husband better. Apart from his colleague telling you about his lifestyle in your absence, do you have any other signs or pointers that he may actually be doing all these?
If yes, how long will you be running from the truth? you may be killing your mental peace in pursuit of avoiding fights and escaping embarrassment in family, which may finally lead to the same when you burst out one day.
This is a delicate issue, think and act.

 

Hi listentomyvoice,

Firstly, don't trust on just rumours. Check out for logical reasons. You should not start doubting on your husband's extra marital affairs merely on words of one of his colleague.

Instead, ask him/her to show you valid proofs. If you feel, that, yes your husband is at fault, confront him directly, without fearing of causing him or your family any embarrassment. You're his wife and you have your rights to ask him to justify his acts in your absence.

Also, the reason that, he has a high sex drive and your absence pushed him into extra marital affair is not valid. Living separately, due to job constraints is not a valid reason for any husband to engage himself in such activities. This doesn't justify at all. If he was involved in extra marital sex, it is deemed as cheating, no matter whether he has a high sex drive or your absence made him miss you.
There are many husbands, across the globe who are living in different cities because of job limitation, just to support their families. That doesn't give any of them the licence to cheat on their wives.

When a wife can maintain a decent, healthy relationship without involving herself with any other man, surely a husband can too.



Secondly, if possible, try to live together. You guys are married and still living like girlfriend-boyfriends. This is definitely not good. You need to have a stable lifestyle, now. You have a kid also and definitely, he needs his father to be present with him all times and not a person who visits him on weekends.

It's very important for you guys to have an emotional bonding. If, your husband was involved in any such activities in your absence, it clearly means, that he is not able to keep upto his commitment levels. Reason being, because, he is not emotionally attached to you.

For an emotional bonding to develop, it is very important that you guys stay together and live a life together. The vising concept is okay when you're not married. But after marriage, try to stay together.

So, if he can change his job and shift to your city, please encourage him to do so. This is sort out all the problems.

 

Honey, are you for real?

Someone told you your husband has multiple partners and HAS A SON with THE MAID!! And you are cool about it?

 

Not to forget the videos.I have read an identical thread earlier too.I wonder if it was posted by OP.

 

this is weird.... which wife wont question her DH?? why will you pretend he is nice?

 

Why dont you sit and have a heart to heart talk with him? tell him about your insecurities.. if he has changed he will definitely understand.. also i think its a good idea for you to talk to him about the things that his colleagues told you.. clear out the air.. what if they are untrue.. you are anyways not sure since you both have not spoken about it... also you guys need to talk about his drinking habits if he is going to be in another city.. COMMUNICATION.. that is what is lacking in your relationship..