I Went Through And I Am Going Through Hell With Mil Fil--please Help!!!

Why think of divorce soo fast... R u soo sure you cannot tackle them.. in laws attitude is a common attitude of most in laws. Ignoring is the only option than replying. While u start ignoring they may also stop taunting. Concentrate on ur life with H. Make him feel he is special to u. Don't say any bad abt his parents , avoid conversation abt thm..
Just try all possibilities to make ur life happier.
If nothing is working then keep a time limit and plan to relocate. But I strongly feel you can make ur life a little more better with patience.
Wishing you good luck

 

How many is a "few" ? If you think that is bound to happen, don't waste money on a divorce. I dont believe in jyoshya business. So, my advice would be to learn how to get a divorce in the location where you live. Various states require various periods of residency, periods of latency when you just wait till your case gets decided, etc..

Many become economic dependents on their spouses, and many are also dependent on their spouses for their legal immigration status in USA. A legal separation or a divorce can put them in a sticky situation with both of these. Lack of money, and lack of legal-status-to-stay-&-work are both troublesome. When your situation could be tenuous if you act, the cost of speaking out would be higher than shutting up. Calculate, and act wisely. No need to talk.

 

Hi Shubham,

I may be wrong in my current response but as a reader I am putting forth my point.
Marriage is something which is confined to a wife and her husband.
Sadly, in India it includes every possible person from both sides - a few, out of their personal relationship with either wife or husband; a few others - wife of husband bringing them in the name of seeking advice.
Either ways, too many cooks ruin the dish.

You being honest and open does not have to mean several people in your conflicts. Choose on wise relative and include him/her in your issues. Your H might be looking at your way of involving several people in your issues
as not so nice attitude. Not too many people need to know that things are not smooth between you and your H. Maybe your H did not like it much and would have decided that you share everything to a lot of people.
Being honest is one thing, being honest and harsh is another.

You mentioned that you talk a lot and also faced problems because of that. Did you ever in a fit of talk, ended up badmouthing your in-laws or husband to someone and they came back and disclosed everything to your H and in-laws with some garnishing of some lies and some drama and you are not aware of this ?

Your issues are not too little to take everything easy nor are they so big that the only way out is divorce or walking out of this marriage.

Remember its very easy to give up on things which are difficult to resolve. That doe snot mean there is no way out. For now the way out is to ignore your in-laws and show some TLC to your relationship with our husband.

 

I am not well versed with astrology but use some common sense. It might predict lifespan but how can it predict how one will die? You have a medical issue at home. Meet a counselor first.

 

Tagging @madras2018 here. Please suggest OP a way out.

 

Thanks @dnormx01

Op - let me begin by asking a few questions
I need your self professed honesty to come forth in your response.

• What is your (not husband's) monthly income at your job. Pls specify a range. Eg 3k - 5k, 5k - 7k, etc.
• Do you have kid(s) ?
• How old are you ?
• Most important - with absolute honesty pls answer, if someone close to you funds your divorce lawyer or your lawyer fees are magically taken care of, are you ready to pack your bags tomorrow ? Do not ponder on how or who. Just focus on answerng the question of are you truly prepared to leave. If not pls specify why.
• If you set aside inlaw problems, are you comfortable with your life with your husband ?