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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Anamika99, Nov 4, 2014.

  1. Anamika99

    Anamika99 Gold IL'ite

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    I have posted this before and some of the tips i got, i was able to over come this feelings...

    In past when i went home from school or work, my in-laws will have list of things to complaint about, mention to my DH and then come back to me....'why...why'...and creating chaos in house for little things i missed - whether it is throwing away bread, forgetting to wipe of a drop of soap near the kitechen sink, one hair not able to remove in bathroom for past few days though i clean the bathroom everyday....my little one now cooperating....subji having more seeds and i didnot seed it well and so on...it used to give me almost hot body and so much tension when i go home...it has stop now this year////it reduced eventually due to many reason... becuase i have gotten better at house hold things, they r old and can't handle much, i ignore, i complain to DH about their complains and DH go tell them, and so on...

    but when it is time for me to go home, i really feel that tension. During this visit i Had that problem in the begining....and I won over my mind with control and I was ok for a long time, but that feeling has started again.... now that they have only 13 days left....but i cannot control my heart n my mind and i really hate this feelings.
     
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  2. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Put on your head phones before you enter the house...take a deep breath and listen to calming music.
     
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    Put up a countdown calender (hourly countdown and not day countdown) on ur phone, laptop, ipad, PDA, everywhere! Get extremely busy at work, leave at 7 and come back at 10.
     
  4. Anamika99

    Anamika99 Gold IL'ite

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    i know ladies, thank you for replies...it is just that time, i get all worked up...

    no there is no way i can leave work that late....my son needs me, he says do not leave me along with them, though they take great care, their neat pickign nature troubles him
     
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    My MIL also keeps ranting about something or the other..Some things I ignore & some I answer back firmly. If she complains too much about something I do, I avoid doing that work & point out later that my way of doing things is not acceptable to her, so she can do it herself.No use of getting scared of these elders & spoiling peace of mind.
     
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