I don't know what to do?

you know what I've different take on this..
first of all does that other guy even care for you in the same manner or is he just being a good friend to a lonely woman? has he ever indicated that he is in love with you or is it your imagination?.. you need to first find that out..
living apart during initial years of marriage is tough.. also falling out of love with a man you loved earlier is normal.. especially after you married and are disillusioned..
I think you need to sort out first your feelings and then that of your "good "friend before jumping the line..
K

 

I juz wonder who is crossing the line here?
Is that the guy is crossing the line,taking the advantage of a married woman living alone, trying to have some fun and satisfy his ego that one more gal on his line....
How could a lady fall for this kinda person?
Or the lady who is enjoying her freedom(!) by conciously forgetting that she is married ,knows that she has loving man who is crazy about her and would accept whatever she does, and confident that her married status/life will not be lost...

Its a Sin if a wrong doing is done with concious... can be called as cheating here as well...
Once u realise ur doing is wrong u gotta avoid it and move on.... Look at the person as a whole keeping ur attractions aside... U may know what he is and your relationship with that person is...

Sorry for being blunt...

 

Dear you have fallen in love again ! Better ask your love interest if he would marry a divorcee , then you can apply for a divorce and marry him or whatever.
PS- Its better to be single than married in your circumstances . Follow your heart and be happy.

 

How can you throw all that away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You have a loving husband,In laws who are supportive, People are there who are praying for the same two things you are taking for granted. Don't you think you are going to cause these nice people to suffer( which is inevitable ) for no fault of theirs . You are having a wonderful life please don't jeopardize it. Leave the job and move to your husbands town.

 

Here's some food for thought:

Imagine the consequences of your husband knowing about this. Can you bear the consequences? Is this strong enough to shake you out of this infatuation?

 

Luc,You maybe missing your husband in subconscious.Also you are in a way trying to substitute your husband by this guy. If you were with your husband and him being good you wudnt have been doing this. Dont do anything hasty and regret later. Lot of women like to have marriages like you. If you have it cherish it. Also dont be in a position where the other person may intepret your concern in a wrong way. What if he feels you are looking to have an affair. Or if he feels you are cheating on your husband, dont value marriage enuf and you are easy.Well these are the things any person wud intepret from what you say you have been doing with him.Stop before it gets out of hand.There maybe 100's of reasons pushing you to his company but there maybe 1 reason which shud make you think again. Your husband and your marriage.Good Luck.

 

I absolutely agree with what chocolate has said above!

 

A long distance marriage and a friend or co-worker who is almost your proxy companion according to your mind is a recipe for disaster.

As i always tell, you need loads of trust, understanding, communication to make a long distance relationship work and is not for the weak.

I would not ask you to put on your husband's shoes or vice versa, because the handling of a long distance marriage in men and women is different. while a man can sit in front of a tv, or a laptop and be happy (atleast 80%) a woman needs communication, and more.

maybe you need to think, if the job is worth the heart break that you are going to end with and indirectly force on your husband too.

Maybe the other guy gets a cheap thrill out of your taking care of him, and also not giving your husband more importance.Natural for a single unmarried guy to know that he edges the husband out to top the list.

luc, sit and analyze yourself. what you feel for this guy could be just friendship that is tethering on the borders of becoming something more (in your mind) as you are missing your husband.

you know, when you do not have a strong mind that helps you to move forward after knowing that what you are doing is wrong, then you need to move away from the path of temptation if you are willing to work this marriage.

Sit together and discuss with your husband again about why you are in a LDM, , the logistics, the timeline, the feelings and the expectations and eliminate any hurt, resentment and open up for a better decision that works out for both of you.

When the same feeling moves towards betraying the other person,".. on the road affairs as they are called,” it rarely satisfies the person for long as it is often laden with guilt, lack of authenticity, distrust and resentment in your marriage.

Think twice before you want to throw away the blessings that you have,you realise them but do not value them, as it must have come easily. if you are out of the marriage, atleast be honest to your husband, who is sitting there, worried, and guilty that you are both living separate just because of financial constraints /job.

Maybe you need to take a break and join your husband..

All the best..

 

Hi luc,
If u r with ur hubby then thez kind of distractions will never happen..quit the job and be with your hubby..it is tough to get nice and loving ppl.. and u r fortunate to get it..so dont loose them

 

hi luc,

Love ur hubby truly, when ever u think abt tat guy , just think ur hubby is living for u only. thn automatically u can change ur mind. just speak with ur husband often. nothing will happen against our mind. so stay with ur job. and if u have leave days go and stay with ur husband . better arrange tour something kind with ur husband.