I behind the curtain!

Thank you Flower lady,

I have already started sleeping in separate bedroom. Further, I have also applied for one graduation course in my field. Thank you for your kind thinking. I am feeling that I have chosen right path by starting to do this.

 

Thank you Lathamaganti,

I would certainly think about the prestige (for what I have taken years to achieve) before I move forward. I am feeling very good that my IL friends are pointing on all important aspects that I should consider while taking any decision. Thanks. It would help.

 

Thank you teacher. I am giving myself a trial time of 3 months now to take a final decision. I would keep documenting what I am doing for my life and what I am doing for others life. What is helpful and what is not helpful.

After then, whatever decision, I would take, I would not try to look back. I promise. Thank you teacher. Thank you for the supportive words for all IL friends who are being my spirit boosters.

 

You are right. I have already started sleeping in the next room. In this situation, however, I am afraid for two things Bhuvnidhi.
1) Because of the demoralization, I may not be able to focus on important things that I choose for my life.
2) My children, who are really precious to me, would have two wrong role models at home. Father using abusive language and mother sleeping in the room apart and ignoring the father.

I liked your signature quote which is so positive and helpful. It says that problems are likely to be there, what I need to do is cultivate more problem handling skills. Become more positive of reaching to my destination walking on the same path?

My goal has been always my family and this is about choosing family or self respect.

I have chosen to document the events and efforts of mine or others and know what is being helpful in my goals. I would live a trial time for 3 months and avoiding taking quick decisions for my life considering how badly it would impact my kids life in case if I make any wrong decision.

 

I think, you are absolutely right. I would certainly go to counselling. I really want to know who I am and I really want to start taking decisions which I can really trust on. I would take the counselor's appointment tomorrow only. Thank you dear.

 

Hi Flowerlady,
Thank you your comments. Please tell me more. what do you mean by the word 'needful'. Does that only mean 'warning him for his behavior'? Thats it? Does that mean that I should continue my duties and should warn him not to abuse me verbally? Can I also tell him that I also need emotional support and a caring husband? I had told him that I want him to work as a team with me. I want some body to care me. What should I do further if it did not help?

Do you know Flower lady, he has so many younger brothers who are more qualified and good looking than he is. He knows how much his brothers do for their wives and he does tell me all this stuff. I wonder, why could not he even change a bit for his marriage life!

I was a very simple girl before marriage. I learnt dressing as per his choice. I learnt doing make up and completely changed my looks for his happiness. I joined the cooking class, sewing class to learn some lessons to be good wife. I read the book of Dorothy Dale carnegie and tried every best to follow the things which would make him happy.

If I am more good looking than all other daughter in laws of the family, if I am more dedicated in the household, if I always allow him to speak when we go out or anybody comes at our home, I feel, what more does he want! Why is he still not happy!