@Happygirl6 Please read this solid gold response from @madras2018 over and over again. This is what you need to do . Wish you the best ! You will be fine. Don’t define your life based on two unhappy marriages. @madras2018 I am not sure I have seen you on IL recently. You come back with this perfect response ! Welcome back ! “Pull up your big girl underpants and get on with your life “ I will replay this in my head when things are tough ! Thank you.