Thanks for fb. It is real life scenario. Whether I am involved or others doesn't matter, as the answer will be the same. But it is real and there are so many people who are doing this and the husbands are taking care of kids. There are only a few from the subcontinent ( I meant origin), but there are many from other countries who are doing this for the sake of family. And there is growing number of husbands from subcontinent who are willing to help with the progress of wife's career. There is currently another op who was asking about her problem and wishes to join her dh. The answers for that atleast mostly were on the basis that the dh earns less, has more expenses when family goes over to join him etc. I did not have time to read all replies. But the general trend was that. Even when the op was asking about the effect it would have on the kid there was not much discussion on that. But when it comes to wife and her career wishes there is lots of suggestions about kids having to go through stress and negative remarks ( I have seen in other thread replies). Is this because we are so much not looking at the bigger picture of girls career and progress and the society's concept that it is fine for the guys to leave family for the sake of employment. This has mostly to do with the girls finding satisfaction in their life and their career, let alone the monetary side. We right royally say find a job to so many girls here, but how many are able to find jobs where their husband is around. In this generation of highly competitive job market, the girls who already would have a long career gap would definitely not be able to find job near where dh and family lives. But we also say the girl is wasting all her hard education and being a house wife when even if the wife wishes to go away, there comes the discussion of how to look after the kids. Doesn't the dh have an equal role to play here to support the wife? That's my question and also we cannot presume the effects on the kids always negatively. If asked to MIL obviously they would say that the wives are making their dear sons suffer and he had to cook, take care of kids etc. But when the same son leaves the wife and kids to go abroad and earn and succeed in his career the same MIL would say that her son is working so hard for his wife and his children but the DIL doesn't understand it( ennoda paiyan maadatum ozhaikiran, evalukku athellam puriyathu). Never does the talk arise in that case that the kids would be hurt, stressed or abandoned because the father isn't around. Just a thread to find how the attitude in general regarding this issue is. I have my own thoughts on this situation and I am asking what would others approach and answers.