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Husband remarrying mobile phone

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by vvdurga, Apr 24, 2013.

  1. vvdurga

    vvdurga New IL'ite

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    Dear ladies,

    I am married for almost 11 years and me and my husband love each other deeply and honestly. But since the time he got office connectivity on his mobile (roughly about 6 months back), he wants to be connected with his office all the 24 hours. He is always with his mobile and pays less attention to anybody other than mobile. Whatever we ask he responds and he takes us for dinner/ movie etc, but always uses his mobile for every 10 minutes or so.

    I have discussed/ fought with him many times on this but no use. I feel I am being neglected or not given any importance. Even though we go out spend time together, we end up fighting bcoz of his mobile phone.

    Do any of you experience this..How to come out of this
     
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  2. Decentguy

    Decentguy New IL'ite

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    Husband connected to Office emails via smart phone 24 hours.
    Does he ever sleep?

    Let me come back to you on this.
     
  3. devipriya

    devipriya Senior IL'ite

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    vvdurga, I am not gearing up your tension, but if he is connecting to phone onevery another 10 minutes, then there must be something wrong... You didn’tmentioned what's your husband's profession, but it is clear that he was not soconnected like this before.

    There is nothing to get worried or tensed, and don’t jump into conclusionsand never fight with him.

    Don’t get angry; don’t make him either, Just be cool, try to explain whatyou feel!

    Try to check his mobile, Ask him to talk in speaker phone, Try to share hisissues at office (sometimes he might be in some problem)
     
  4. DrKadambari

    DrKadambari Gold IL'ite

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    OP is mentioning about the irritating behaviour of her husband who checks his office emails on phone. Its not that she is doubting him.

    I know how it feels when some one is checking his phone every few min as I go thru that and literally husband being occupied with something else and every time gotta talk, have to draw attention and expect him to hear that and then after he stops his fiddling with laptop/ mobile he might reply where we have to repeat question again. Thats the most irritating part. I GOT NO ANSWER / SOLUTION though OP. Just clarified your post.
     
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    ars Platinum IL'ite

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    Now your husband Later its your kids.
    So you better get some cool gadget to get attached to Or should I say remarried to.
     
  6. vvdurga

    vvdurga New IL'ite

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    exactly yes...u r right.....he has got lot of tension, work pressure and long working hours at office.
     
  7. vvdurga

    vvdurga New IL'ite

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    yes he was not connected like this before..he is a project manager in s/w industry and i have listened to him many times on phone...i am 200% confident that there is nothing to doubt..only thing i am not able to accept is the over involvement shown towards office. sometimes i think might be he is fearing that rest of the people will takeover if he doesnt stay connected
     
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    vvdurga New IL'ite

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    how do you manage...dont you get irritated
     
  9. sarada30

    sarada30 Platinum IL'ite

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    dear durga,

    even my dh is a manager and he is also on his phone ever now and then it has become a habit to him that with out his phone he can not survive. After certain period of married life most of the men will feel wife as there own property and dont show much care but they will have the love. So dont make simple things complicated.

    All the best.
     
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  10. nutty_witty

    nutty_witty Senior IL'ite

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    hi durga, might be the curiosity with new gadget makes him immerse with his phone. same thing happens in my home also, my DH always on phone connected to work... yes i do feel irritate, but even after fights and discussions that habit hasn't change... now i got used to that, and whenver i want to talk some thing important, i go to his room star him coldly for few mins, he disconnect the call and talk to me...
     
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