:helpHi friends! This is my first post. I have been married for five years. Ours was arranged marriage. From the beginning of my marriage my ILS and my DH kept distance with my parents (no reasons). I have no children yet. I got pregnant twice first time miscarriage and then had ectopic pregnancy. I also suffer from PCOD and under medication. After few months of my marriage my ILS started taunting and being sarcastic with me behind my DH and sweet in front of him. I don’t know why I am really nice and well behaved till now with them. When I complained to DH regarding this he said I think negative. My one and only elder SIL is married ,well settled and has a child. Her husband is doing good. My SIL and ILS live very close to each other. I and DH stays in different state since my marriage becoz of his posting. From the beginning my SIL never accepted me. She wud be very quiet in the beginning my behavior was normal with her. She wud only talk to my DH, only call him and not talk to me. In the beginning I wud call her ,talk to her at time she wud sarcastic with me or wud not talk properly. she wud never call me. Then I stopped calling her. My SIL is the Queen of my ILS and DH whatever and whenever she demands, commands is at her service. She and her husband most of the time stay in my ILS house. My MIL normally has trouble cooking when I am with her but has no problem cooking different lunch and dinner for her DD and her ILS. My FIL is retired and my DH financially supports them too. Knowing all this my SIL keeps on demanding expensive gifts for herself, her son, her husband and even her ILS. Twice once a year her son with my ILS since he is not 11 years old comes to our place during his school holidays by air(return also with ILS). DH spends like anything on him. Credit bills go high. I have to scarifice my happiness for my SIL and her demands. Since my DH cannot say the word NO to her. I don’t know why? SIL husband is there to fullfill her needs still my DH gives her priority. According to DH oven is luxury item fine I agree. Then we needed a shoe rack according to him this is also a luxury item. But purchasing a play station 2 for SIL son is not luxury item? DH discusses all private matters with SIL even regarding my pregnancy and related matters to it which I mentioned earlier. She has taken advantage of this. When I got pregnant second time my DH was away other state and I was at my ILS house at that time as usual my SIL was also in her parents house. As instructed by my husband I had to show my pregnancy results to ILS and SIL. The pregnancy kit result came positive but not accurate. My SIL got a golden chance to hurt me. She told me and then latter with mirch masala to my ILS that I can NEVER get pregnant. Becoz of my earlier condition PCOD. No doctor ever told me I can never get pregnant and also this was my second pregnancy. ILS got a chance to taunt me. Then after few days I went to my parents house and pregnancy results came positive. My SIL never wished me and sounded upset. Unfortunately I had ectopic pregnancy and had to go for laparoscopy emergency surgery. SIL also told my private matters to other relatives. DH got aware about this and discussed with me. I told all this to DH he told she has a right to have opinion and she is not wrong. I am the one who is thinking negative about her. I told DH she has no right to say about my private matter to other . DH said she is important person in his life and cannot say anything to her and cannot compromise anything for her. I don’t know what to do. SIL is controlling my lives and happiness. Please help me. Thanks!