Husband left me and baby in India

The kind that clearly shouldn't be making decisions concerning other people's lives, especially with a baby — he sees nothing but himself and his family. Besides, who is he to be positioning himself as the sole "decision-maker" about whether you guys stay married or get a divorce? Did he forget there's two of you (and now three)? Did he forget that you get a say in the matter?

Are you capable of being self-sufficient and supporting your baby?

 

Op, what's your visa status? Can you work of you go back?

Your husband does sound terribly immature.

Use these 6 months to your advantage. If you can, find a good counsellor in India for yourself. It will help you clear your head. Be hopeful and positive, exude energy and have a good time with your parents and child now. Assure them and yourself that everything will turn out well (eitherway) for you and your child. find courses you can do that would help your find a job.

Then decide what you want to do about your marriage. i think you should take a call. If you choose to live with your husband insist that you both need to get some marital counselling.

 

Hi,
I understood your feelings!
If you know any friends in US or if you have any Job offers in US visit first along with your parents. And Left them and kid in your friends home. And you visit your home. If your husband ask her to went out, inform him this is US not india. You try job and work. Make home for your parents! and Contact any ladies association there. Talk with them and ask them to help you. Try to find any lawyer. If your husband shouts you just inform him, i wont give divorce. If i wants to give divorce means i need some months time and you must come with me and stay with me like this. ask money! this is only for shake. Just blackmail him. If you separated your hubby from his brother and mother, everything will be fine!

May be they wish to arrange second marriage for him. Wake up and Keep your husband with you! Ladies life is not gents shirt. be courage. Your child need father!

 

@catchaparna - Did you see it coming before? Did the divorce topic come out of blue? Are these the only reasons? You said you left ILs house in India because of secret not told to you.
You went to your house angrily because they did not tell you BILs had visited India?
So you husband went back to US without talking to you.
I think this is just half story.

No man in this senses will just leave his wife and BABY in India just because she is not hosting this guests right and not loving ILs very much.
I know sometimes with lot of pressure at home, its good to have time off and in US, with no relatives or family around its gets really suffocating sometimes.

I would say -
Think through. You have few months now. Think what went wrong, what do you want now? you want to live in US?

Do not call him for sometime and let him think about it and call you. Then you both can decide.
If you think you want to stay in India, look for jobs.

 

You said you are working. What visa are you on? Would your employer let you take these many days off?

 

He is acting like a jerk demanding divorce over such a trivial issue even when there is a child in picture. He is mean to put you through such emotional trauma and for not considering his little daughter's well being. You need to think hard if you want to spend your remaining life with such a person.

These could even be empty divorce threats merely designed to intimidate you so you do as he wishes. Don't try to persuade him to take you back. He will only get worse if he knows your desperation.

I think your topmost priority should be becoming independent. You need to decide where you want to pursue your career, here or in US. Can you go back to US and pursue your career there independent of him? Or do you feel it will be easier here with your parent's support and this will also give you more time to spend with your child.

And his family members must most probably be passing on whatever you speak with them to him. So be very careful in what u say. Once in a while you can use this to your advantage if you wish. Convey your thoughts to him via them until he starts communicating with you.

all the best