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Husband Left Me Alone In Midst Of Crowd....

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Parry22, Mar 16, 2019.

  1. Parry22

    Parry22 Silver IL'ite

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    Would you be pissed at this incident? or should i let it go?

    DH & i were going out one day. i went alone to take out my scooty, DH generally meets me outside the building. WHen i reached at the building gate, There was a huge crowd for a get-together. it was so crowded i couldn't find a way to get out my scooty. DH said u take out scooty from this crowd, i will walk and take another route to meet you at xyz. i was shocked, he left me in the middle of the crowd to navigate and find my way out alone. I am pretty independent and bold, so i didn't mind but i still couldn't fathom the fact that he left me all alone in a difficult situation. and it was actually really crowded, a gentleman wouldn't have left a lady like that.
    If this happened to you, how would you react? I was super pissed and made sure my husband knew, i told him all this , but he was like - so what??? its okay na, leave it.
     
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  2. Metamorphic

    Metamorphic Gold IL'ite

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    Hey come-on... it was just a crowd, probably residents of your own building. Not a gang of decoits na .. You are overreacting. Don't loose your peace over this.

    Also, if your H is generally a shy person, piercing into celebrating crowds will be a challenge for him too .. and since you are "pretty bold" as you said, he must have left this task for you.
     
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    I have a question to @Parry22:
    How long you been married?
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    :hello:There is absolutely nothing to be worried about DH.
    I left my spouse at times like this on account of untimely nature’s call. There are at times even this urge could not be conveyed. Perhaps DH had so much faith and confidence that you can manoeuvre better and fast in such situations. Celebrate such moments sister.
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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    senorita2019 Gold IL'ite

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    Dont blow this up. You said you are independent and bold so he trusted that you will navigate successfully through the crowd. He did think highly of you here. You did navigate and come out so kudos to you.

    If your husband had done the hand holding you might have written a thread called "My husband is treating me like a baby and undermining me" .... Just Kidding :)

    Enjoy life ... dont sweat the little stuff
     
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    jayasala42 Finest Post Winner

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    This has happened to me on many occasions. Ignore and get along.He has so much confidence in you.
    Jayasala 42
     
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    Short answer: I would be pissed off initially, and after making my opinions known, I would let it go. But some more details are also needed.

    Going out to the same place?
    What was the original plan? You on scooty, he walking? Or both on scooty? Can scooty seat two?

    Here the matter gets confusing. If he can walk and take another route, why can't you? Why do you have to take the scooty?
    Nothing to do with gender. Generally speaking, if a person is in such a situation, the spouse should stay on and make sure the scooty gets out of the crowd fine. Was he in a hurry?

    Yes, it was not nice of him to do that.
    Maybe when some time has gone by, you guys can discuss it more calmly. Instead of blaming him, just tell him that you might be capable but it would mean a lot to you if he stayed on in such situations.

    Equality is nice. Men and women both being able to do what were marked as his and her tasks is good. Still, a husband might be better at some things, and the wife might be better at some things. If one is stuck in a situation, and the other is better at that situation thingie, the "other" should help the one stuck, should not say, "you can manage" and go away.
     

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