Husband Having Ema Affair And I'm Feeling Suicidal

shyamala1234 · Jan 27, 2017

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Hi everyone,
As I'm new here lil intro about me I'm 25y.o woman married since 3years I have 1.9 year old baby girl.. it all started from the beginning of marriage days. My husband was taking care of me very well even though ours was Arranged marriage.. one day I was browsing his laptop and saw his few photos with a girl being so close and asked who it is he said his cousin n lied later I got to know it's his ex and there about to get married and that girl use to come my husband bachelor room and stay for days due to some reasons she left n all.. when i questioned him he throwed laptop and shouted as if it's my fault.. later he beat me also I couldn't say this to my parents cause they can't bear it was just 3 months since I'm married they have lots of dream in me, later after this incident he acted so polite n calm apologised me fell on my feet.. everything was normal later he asked me to give jewellery saying his bills r stuck so he'll pledge the jewellery for now n shall release later. I got convinced and that's it one after the other like that he took everything even my mangalya chain.. I have nothing.. I got pregnant and went to parents home and they got to know about all these and were scolding. When my dd was 13days old he was just troubling me to ask my dad for their house document because he wanted to pledge it and take loan I refused.. he slapped me and went black mailing he'll die.. I felt very bad and committed suicide and my mom saw me gagging for air and took me to hospital from then my dad don't talk to me.. it's same even now whenever he needs money I'm his queen.. or else I'm just a fun material to tease about my body personality my family..my in laws had never even come to see my daughter also.. I got abused, hurted, every time I ask something he will beat me and throws everything that's in home once he throwed Tv from 3floors.. I'm educated and girl with sense I can't talk to neighbours also because of this shame he pulls me out of home and asks me to go out n die in my parents home.. whatever ge do I'll just cry and cry and cry.. and sleep always to forget.. he never sits with me for a talk or at least won't call to ask hows baby doing.. in fact he won't take the kid to hospital also.. each n every rupees I spend us given by my mom.. if i call him he'll say he's busy and won't talk, if I talk when he come home he'll say he s busy and will talk later.. when I talk during dinner he'll throw D plate n abuse in bad words always points wrong in me don't deserve at least a min in his life, he calls his ex talks for hours and meet her also that woman is such a shameless, she have family husband is good earning person.. but always goes around with my husband.. when I got them in call recording I just shouted at my husband and went to toilet and crying and shower he just broke the door and beat me he had put us leg on my neck saying die who r u to check my phone I'll do whatever I want because of u I lost peace vaibhava was right u r bit** and all.. that moment I felt god take my breathe away.. I'm not able to do anything I can't die I have a daughter, I can't go to my parents n say Al these cause my dad health is not good. I feel like going far from everyone n live with my baby.. my love have no value.. I loved him.. he used me.. it's really would b better if I die in sleep.. I can't take this torture
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Why are you still living with him??????
Syamala

ThirumathiJ · Jan 27, 2017

You need all the help and support you can get now.
Go to your parents. You cannot do it alone. Stay with your parents for 1 year and gain mental strength first. Take time to heal yourself first. Time will decide what to do. Don't worry about your daughter, you are still young. You have hope and good life awaits you. But this guy is of no hope. Don't have to decide now, it will be a wrong decision anyways, just clear your mind and don't think of anything for now. Just get out of it and be with your parents. You can come back when you're stronger mentally, or not come back, but please go, now!

You can live with all sort of guys, jealous ones, stingy, nagging, stupid, angry, irritating...they are still bearable. BUT NOT WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T care if you ate or not, someone who doesn't care you are in pain, someone who doesn't call you or not bothered if you die...etc.. He has no feelings for you and that is not worth it....you are wasting your time with this guy. Get out of it, Life is Good, after the Bad phase, God has better plans for you. Don't you think of suicide. Your life does not end here, you are 25, your misery ends here, it will have a new start maybe in the next 2, 3 years. You and your kid deserve a better human being.

Everybody undergoes similar situations in different stages of life. But not everybody contemplates suicide. Only the very emotionally unstable person can think of that option. That is why I am suggesting, do not face it alone. You need support from parents. Leave immediately. More than your kid needing her father, you need your parents now! Be strong first for yourself, your kid will be fine if you are fine.

Kera · Jan 27, 2017

you stayed with this guy for this long. I am sorry you went thru this, I can't believe you stayed 3 years. If I was super nice, I might have excused the first outburst he had & raised his hands on me. But after that, there would be no excuse. I can't believe your parents let you go back to him. And you are educated girl, you can handle world on your own. Don't stay with him