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Husband Having Ema Affair And I'm Feeling Suicidal

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by LD1234, Jan 20, 2017.

  1. srilaxmi

    srilaxmi Silver IL'ite

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    really he doesnt deserve you, dont waste ur time in begging him,Firstly u search a job, and move to ur parents place, dont think they will get tensed n about their health, they will be fine, once u start working automatically u will be financal balanced and u can take better steps, now at this point dont think about divorce, but move out from the house n stay with parents and u become support for them, commiting suicide is a big mistake, if u take such a decision wat will happen to ur daughter n ur parents, dont think about such things.

    First a foremost such a job immediately, and stop contacts with ur H. Starts doing mediation, n keeps ur self busy.
     
  2. samsWait

    samsWait Silver IL'ite

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    Really feel sad for your situation. I think you are depressed and need counseling. Is it possible for you to get counseling? If not slowly stop expecting and start getting detached to your husband emotionally. Pour all of your emotions on your kid. Ignore your husband royally. Get out of the house for at least an hour. Get some exercise. Do these immediately. Next things can be done afterwards
     
  3. LD1234

    LD1234 Senior IL'ite

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    OK dear. I'm trying to get job.. because of meditation only I'm handling all these with patience so far.. but we will have some extincts :(
     
  4. LD1234

    LD1234 Senior IL'ite

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    Thanks a lot.. ya I would take ur suggestion I'm thinking to work so that I will b busy n won't have such thoughts
     
  5. Rise

    Rise Platinum IL'ite

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    You said you are educated.. can you get a rented house find a job ? For some time you may have to send your kid to day care ... I don't want to hear that you are in love with your husband who has no value for you or your kid he is an abuser and cheats on you and what is this love you say you have for him?

    Where is your self esteem and self respect?
     
  6. Laks09

    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Please send a private message to @IL_Admin wirh your concerns regarding your username and a request for name change.
    Also do not mention real names in your posts. I noticed you are stating the other woman's name. It must be your stress but you can easily be identified if you do that.

    Regarding your situation, you have been in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. Your parents don't want you to be in it. Lots of women who want to get out can't because of family pressure and lack of support.
    Stop focusing on the GF and focus on yourself. She can keep the abuser for herself. That'll be the best revenge. Give the worthless guy to her and you focus on yourself and your daughter.

    Can you meet a lawyer? Understand your options? Know your rights and options and then make a well informed decision.
    Do you have help to watch your baby? If you do, then slowly start looking for a job. Once you are financially independent you can make decisions for yourself and her.
     
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    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Had you left your husband knowing about his past and after his abuse it would have saved you from all this mess..
    Atleast now if you do not wake up , you might end up suffering whole life with your kid. There are many shameless women who do not care about the mans marital status.. all they want is money and time which they do not get from their partners.. Time you record all his conversations, have solid proof..steel his credit card and try to extract money. leave the home, book a case. Being a man he has to pay for you and his child support.
    I don't think any women has to bear abuse from any guy.
     
  8. rajatsingh

    rajatsingh Silver IL'ite

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    Nice ! Which Meditation technique you are practising ?
     
  9. Nonya

    Nonya Platinum IL'ite

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    Engaging a suicidal person in an exchange is one of the strategies that we often see on the internet on the subject of suicide prevention.....

    A quick google search (see my results below) shows many ideas on how to help someone.
    I wonder what this IL forum does when someone posts and says they are planning (or had done) one.
    Nonya....

    Suicide Prevention: How to Help Someone who is Suicidal and Save a ...
    https://www.helpguide.org/.../suicide.../suicide-prevention-helping-someone-who-is-s...
    They wish there was an alternative to suicide, but they just can't see one. ... Saying goodbye – Unusual or unexpected visits or calls to family and friends. ... If the person says things like, “I'm so depressed, I can't go on,” ask the question: “Are ... MEANS to carry out the plan, a TIME SET for doing it, and an INTENTION to do it.
    What to do if someone you know says they're going to commit suicide
    saynotostigma.com/.../what-to-do-if-someone-you-know-says-theyre-going-to-commi...
    Aug 30, 2013 - What do you do if someone tells you he or she is going to kill themselves? I didn't ... Dr. Ellis said to take all suicide communication seriously. ... If you think he might be at immediate risk of attempting suicide, please call 911.
    My Friend Is Talking About Suicide. What Should I Do? - KidsHealth
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    Have you heard that people who talk about suicide won't go through with it? That's not true. ... Depression can affect many areas of a person's life and outlook.
    How to Help a Suicidal Person - Mental Health Today
    www.mental-health-today.com/suicide/sui2.htm
    1) If someone threatens or makes statements referring to suicide, TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY. Many people have taken ... If they truly want to die, they may not tell you the truth about their plan. All it takes is for someone to say "I am going to kill myself" to call 911. When law .... They may now have the energy to commit the act.
    10 Things Not to Say to a Suicidal Person : Speaking of Suicide
    www.speakingofsuicide.com/2015/03/03/what-not-to-say/
    Mar 3, 2015 - It can greatly help a suicidal person to feel understood. .... What do you do when it gets past just thoughts and you start planning things? .... When someone say's that they want to commit suicide but they say they are scared to do ...... He had told me earlier in a text and phone call he was going to kill himself.
    What to Do When You Think Someone is Suicidal | Psych Central
    Mental Health Librarywhat-to-do-when-you-think-someone-is-suicidal/
    Ask the person directly if they're considering suicide, Schmitz said: “You know, ... If the person discloses to you how they're considering committing suicide, eliminate ... Together, the two of you also can call the National Suicide Prevention ...



    What to do if someone you know is planning to commit suicide ...
    www.superhero-therapy.com/.../what-to-do-if-someone-you-know-is-planning-to-co...
    Oct 27, 2013 - I often get asked about what a friend or family member can do if a loved one communicated that he or she is thinking about committing suicide.
    What can I do to help someone who may be suicidal? - Metanoia
    Metanoia: A site about online therapy, e-therapy, mental health education, and suicide preventionsuicide/whattodo.htm
    Those problems weren't enough to commit suicide over, is often said by ... Myth: If a someone is going to kill himself, nothing can stop him. ... to get help may bring them more pain: being told they are stupid, foolish, sinful, ... Development of suicidal plan, acquiring the means, rehearsal behavior, setting a time for the attempt.
    What to do if a Person Threatens Suicide on Facebook | Bipolar Burble ...
    natashatracy.com/mental-illness-issues/suicide/person-threatens-suicide-facebook/
    Jul 30, 2012 - If the person responds and says they are getting help or that they do not intend ... Yes, Call the Authorities for Facebook Suicide Threats ..... reach out in the form of hinting at suicide or stating that they plan on it. ... the post actually said they want to commit suicide directly and face book thinks this is nothing.
    3 Ways to Help Someone Who Is Thinking About Committing Suicide
    www.wikihow.com › ... › Emotional Conditions › Coping with Suicide
    Apr 16, 2015 - Whether your friend told you they were thinking of suicide or you just sense a possibility, you ... admitted to actively planning suicides until they participated in open discussions about suicide. ... Listen to what them say, and accept the feelings that they are expressing, ... Do not try to “call the person's bluff.
     
  10. Gochandra

    Gochandra New IL'ite

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    Hey hi Laxmi, this is my first online forum I ever had a conversation with a stranger, Your story moved me, the only thing which bothers me in the whole episode is y are u still clinging to guy who ripped u..no offense but are u really out of your mind to expect a miracle from god to change your hubby, guys like him are shameless they never change. And neither will be the bitch who is staying with him and causing all chaos, so plz awaken your senses and run away from the guy. Coming to your suicidal thoughts we outsiders are no one to judge u, as an Indian women I understand your agony but next time whenever u are depressed or feeling low just remember your daughter, I mean think of her who wil look after her, as you already said your parents are old and sick, there is no one for her other than u..at least u have your both parents but wat about her if u too leave her? So plz never think of leaving her.

    U said u stay in us right? Do u know that just a call to cops with all the proofs can end his life here for the crime he is doing on u by abusing you, next time just record all needed information and call cops and u leave to India.
    Time wil heal every thing, your parents wil definitely support u and cherish u. You are stil very young don't worry u wil find a great guy next time in your life. But for now plz run away from him and go to India.also if possible collect the proofs of the lady too and give to cops they wil take care of her for looting all the money, if u still feel like taking revenge on her just take all proofs and go to her home and show to her husband and your
    in laws too, don't ever worry of your in laws, show them middle finger and move on..u dont need to tell them anything as you want to end your relationship with your husband.
     

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