Husband Has No Fixed Timing

How about his colleagues ? Do they have similar schedule ? I understand sometimes it is hard to drive back home after long day of work. Can he hire someone to drive him back ? Is it possible to move closer to work ?

 

Not sure, how can you influence him? With his life style you are describing, maximum may be another 10 years? After that, his body will take a toll on him.

Our body parts and mind have limitation /built-in processing duration, it depends how we can use them effectively.

May be fix an appointment to see a doctor and let him explain how fast his health can be deteriorating with his travel / eating habits.

Sleep deprivation and they way he drives around - is not a good combination.

My DH traveled almost 15 years in his prime, every week for international meetings... enjoyed his hype in marketing, fancy hotel, food, cabs and, someone else is doing the same job. But, the traveling took a toll on him - ended up having sever kidney issues and chronic cough. The asthma / bronchitis issues made him to choose stay "at home" assignment. He took 2-year treatments to become stable, now he is on endless list of meds, for rest of his life. He didn't have any sleeping issues, one of those can sleep anywhere / any time, the moment he hits the pillow.

Most friends envied his travel assignment job. Now, whose is suffering? Did he listen to the doctor or me? Some will not listen, unless suffer and feel the pain.

It is the nature of the job and its hype.

 

I agree..continuous travel, driving, outside food, irregular sleep and food timings are very harmful in the long run..those who are in their twenties and early thirties may take it easy as they are still young but the effect is seen in the forties and fifties..better to take a job that's slightly more stable rather than to end up taking a career break due to poor health..

 

How long have you been married? Do you know before marriage his job style?
sometimes there is no simple solution for these type issues.
I would suggest you focus yourself. Your husband has to realize himself and at one point.

Your push and worry won't help him to realize anything. Do you have kids?If you don't and planning then have a long conservation with your husband. Don't give him kids just like that. Tell him that you can't run kid without making his lifestyle changes.

 

Nothing much, you can do, other than get him to see a doctor (if possible, an Indian doc) to asses his health condition. Go along with him to see his doctor and tell the doc, your concern.

Having cholesterol is not a good thing, it slowly builds up to cause stroke at young age. Cholesterol issue starts as early as in 30's, better to get started on meds, soon. Cholesterol / BP works together as twins, to cause serious health risk.

Not everybody can handle the stress and a few can thrive to do such a job. You should be proud of him, your DH seems to be one of those 'smarty' kind, he must be very good at what he is doing.

When my DH traveled for few hour meetings around the world, What was I doing? Working, raising our son, focusing on his school, keeping my boy busy with activities and entertaining him with his school friends. Time flew by, my son is an adult now! My DH is very jealous when my son talks to me about his work / personal life and we talk, laugh together for hours. My son is very respectful, looks up to his dad / envy his accomplishment / asks for his advice etc but their a missing bond / closeness between them.

That's life, go with the flow. Don't analyze it too much. Be strong to accept the reality.