My delivery happened 6 plus months ago , I'm staying in joint family.. As it is I am having tough time staying in joint family and managing everything.. I'm really stressed out due to following reasons.. I m not keeping very good health..I have back pains due to c section and other reasons.. When I'm stressed out or strained I get breathing problem and irregular bleeding.. U all know how difficult it is to manage staying up in night and also attending to baby in daytime.. Of late I have not been having proper relations with my husband because he keeps finding fault with me..if I stay up at night for attending to baby obviously I should take rest in daytime also right..he has told several times that I keep sleeping and don't do anything..my in laws do not know how to look after baby for longer durations..they have some old fashioned ideas and methods which don't work now..my husband and in laws say that I keep sleeping and don't do any work..They want me to handle all cooking and household tasks in addition to baby care..they are not satisfied with simple food and want to have variety of dishes..I can't cook elaborate stuff. They keep complaining of health problems he criticises me for not looking after them properly...i don't know what seva I m supposed to do for them when they can manage things on their own..they don't take proper care by doing exercises, or following food restrictions, what can I do Every week some guests keep coming and they will nicely sit and chat with guests and expect me to make coffee tea snacks etc..sometimes I would want to take rest but unable to take rest if people keep dropping in.. Directly or indirectly they blame me for not being able to have a normal pregnancy and delivery.. Actually I myself feel guilty many times..I had medical problem..many times I feel that I did something wrong.. Maid is there for sweeping , mopping ..but they are not ready to spend money for additional task and for Cook etc..but they do wasteful expenditures in other things.. I tried looking for lady to help with baby..but she proved to be very negligent and I had some issues with her so I stopped her..I don't like idea of appointing Ayah as they don't follow proper hygiene.. I got job offer but I didn't take it up becos I can't leave such small baby in daycare or with in laws as they are unable to look after.I don't have economic independence to arrange for household helps and cooks on my own..My milk is drying up due to tension.. Can't anyone show little bit sympathy consideration for a new mom..