I am mother of 2 kids, working full time. My Mil is from different city but with us to take care of kids . My fil also here. Although my mil is from different city (she has a own house there) and my DH is in this current city due to his job. she is with us right day 1 from our marriage . My friends also used to tease me 'is you mil a free gift to your marriage that come life long with you.' When newly wed,I had a lot of dreams to stay alone with my DH , to spend more time with him but when we had chances to be alone, he will start missing his mom and would call her to come and stay with us. . That was my past story Coming to the present,She knows each and everything(or rather wants to know )that is happening in our life . I am not complaining, she takes good care of my kids : feeding , bringing them from school , making them to sleep when I am in office. But the issue is I feel I lack my privacy , its like I feel like to be all alone with 2 kids and DH. She keeps on talking talking , talking old stories that happened in her life, about here great great grandfather , grandmother, some XYZ whom I dont ever know them, boasting (I did this, I did that , I am great BLAH BLAH) She spends the whole day just by watching tv serials and I will not interfere when she is watching, but when I get some free time to watch tv ,she will start talking about something at the same time and keep continously chit chatting not allowing me to watch . I would be like ' better not watch tv' and will leave the place saying I am work inside. She keeps poking her nose on everything. When I cook she gives instructions as though I am new to cooking for ex : chop the onions nicely (which I do it regularly) , make the rotis thin , wash the vegetables well . I really dont know what she thinks , she simply wants to show her upper hand . When I take hair bath in the morning she will ask me as soon as I enter kitchen. why did you take head bath , I really feel like killing her at that moment. She expects me to follow what and all she does which I hate to the core. She keeps watching me indirectly what I do. In my own house I am not having any privacy . I love to watch tv or movies on phone lying on sofa in the hall . But cant as most of the times she will be on it ( not most of the time ....all the time) night only she goes to her room to sleep. My mil will leave to the home town in weekends as I will be in off. so whenever I get holidays she will leave and return when I have office. And those days I will be like cloud nine. Having my own world with my family. But that time also she expects me to call her and talk about our happenings when she is not here with us. If I call her in the evening, she will ask me ' ennama you didnt call me since morning, were you that much busy' . and then she starts, how she boarded her bus, who was sitting next to her, what she had at night and when she reached, what she did after that , who came to her home, what did she cook and when she slept....uff..and now my turn she asks me what did I cook, what did you pack for DH , kids, what did FIL where we went , what did we shop and so many things... this irritates to me core . I dont know how to tackle this situation. Even when the kids are not well and she also knows about it , that time also she expects me to call and say about their health. She will not call me in curiosity how her grand children are doing.Sometimes wantedly I will not call her and then later in evening she will call and ask how are they , why you didnt call and inform me. When we go out for shopping or some other places and if it gets late , when I return home she will not talk to me and later she will ask you didnt call and inform that we are late. She has the habit of asking my elder son what happened in the house (when we have any fight between me and H) while bathing him when she was not in town. I cannot say any harsh words upfront and I feel it may hurt her and she may stop talking to us and not come here to take care of my kids. I cannot leave my children at my parents place currently as my in laws and H not in talking terms for past 3 years. that is another big story. Kindly advise what should I do. I am just keeping quiet and digesting all this just for the sake of kids as she is taking a very good care of them. I cannot leave my job as we need to pay EMIS's . I wish DH or me get an onsite opportunity this year so that we can lead 'only US' life. Sorry for the long vent.