How To Raise Children With Good Moral Compass

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  1. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    After reading recent atrocities in our country , I was thinking how do we as parents ensure that our children possess high moral compass and are able to differentiate good from bad.

    We do reach children to be respectful of elders , woman and be gentle with children but I don't think that is helping much .

    I am sure the perverts who commit shameful crimes against children are also taught the same things and am pretty sure they respect their elders , mothers etc.

    If you take a look at twitter , you see scores if low lives trying to negate the rape reports or trying to justify or support the rapists or some how justify the criminal acts.

    We have a low life who was sacked from bank due to insensitive remarks that it is good ,such a crime happened.

    There is another lowlife and **** newspaper which published a fictional story using the victims name and crime details portraying the rape never happened with a small * at the end stating this is fictional story

    We have few other low lives who are so eager to share such fake news just to support the rapists .

    How do we identify if our children have such tendencies and correct them or how to ensure our children grow up with a high moral
    Compass

    Any ideas ?
     
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  2. Rosey2018

    Rosey2018 Bronze IL'ite

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    Shower them with a lot of love and care yet at the same time teach the right and the wrong. Give them scenarios. Make them pray everyday and main thing don’t let them out of your site until they’re married.

    We look after kids until they’re teens or go to college and then think now they’re adults. No the teen stage and college stage affects kids the most. Dealing with the wrong and not coping with adult situations damages them.
     
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    I am biased, but I use a lot of my mother's lessons as a mother.

    1. Develop social skills - make sure you have good communication with your children. As a parent, you want to be a safe place for your child so that they can share their thoughts honestly. Don't try to know their every move, or they will start lying to you. But keep the communication lines open and judgement-free.

    2. Develop emotional intelligence - from a young age, it is important to cultivate a child's ability to empathize and react compassionately. It's simple things, like saying sorry when they have hurt someone and offering to help the person feel better (with ice, or cleaning up the room, etc.)

    3. Be the role model - children learn by imitating what adults and peers, and movies and cartoons, of course. Be an example of the qualities you want to instill. Reduce the exposure to bad characters (you can't eliminate completely, since they are also teaching opportunities). Watching soap operas or typical masala movies might seem like a guilty pleasure and totally harmless, but it normalizes certain behaviors that are not conducive to healthy relationships. Children pick up on the social cues and mimic them.

    4. Allow your child to fail - this is a big challenge to us all, but the more we coddle them, the less they understand the impact of their actions. If a child fails (in any regard) and fears exposure, there are often many wrongs that become acceptable to hide the truth. The maturity to accept failure and not blame others, is a very important skill.

    I'm sure there are other gold nuggets of wisdom from my mom, but I can't remember them.
     
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    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks for feedback. We can try our best buy we cannot make them stay in front of our eyes all then time right. That is where their thought process comes into play .
     
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    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks for the detailed feedback. May need to work on point 2 and 4.

    My children have least exposure to masala movies to the point that sometimes I feel I should show them some. I think I am also looking for ways to explicitly discuss these and condemn these behaviours in front them. My kids are in elementary so not sure if it the right time.
     
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    We all got to work on them. Elementary age is the right time to have conversations about media and current events. There is consent education that starts as early as early childhood. I thought this video was so great at introducing the topic.

     
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    Agreed. I meant keep an eye on them dont be a parent that doesnt know whats not going on.
     
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    Thanks for the video. It helps.
     
  9. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    Oh ok. Thanks Got your point now.
     

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