How to keep your secrets once married?

OP, just dont worry. please leave the dairy at your own home till the time you feel comfortable at your in laws place. However, you said you are taking some medicines. if it is a long term illness which you want to hide from your husband, let me tell you that it is better to share than hide such sensitive things.

 

I think its tad immaturity to generalize everything on the culture when we cant really differentiate between challenges in life and culture. To see on flip side, there are many women in our own culture who would want to know every detail of the husband right from his office appointments to the diet he should/should not follow…or more so scrutinize the call history after returning from office.

Privacy IN MARRIAGE is a personal choice which depends on the maturity of the couple involved than anything to do with culture. Let me tell you, if the marriage makes a perfect couple, one should not be too surprised if the spouse himself/herself ask other spouse to write down the daily notes. Ideally thats the stage where successfully married couple grow over a period of time

 

In my experience, no cupboards or anything are "private" in inlaws' home. Someone or the other will open it under some pretext. So something risky, like a diary, should either be gotten rid of or left at parents' place. Why take a risk? If you really like to write a diary, keep a private, online journal under a password. Anyway, if you are going to be in a joint family, it's unlikely that you'll get much time to write in the first few months.

About condoms, sex toys and such things, best to ask your husband. Maybe in a drawer under your clothes? Btw, do newly married Indian couples use sex toys? I didn't even know that. If your future husband and you decide to keep some, buy them together with him. Once you live in the house for a few weeks, you'll find out which spot is safe.

As for discarding condoms, keep a covered dustbin in your bathroom, line it with a plastic bag and after putting in the condom, throw in some toilet paper or crumpled newspaper.

Finally, for avoiding sweets etc., just tell everyone in different contexts that you don't like sweets at all and have never liked them. Most likely, even then they'll ask you to have some all the time, so for the first few days you'll have to eat. After a month or so, they'll cool off and let you be.

 

OP, we get dairy boxes with locks or use some makeup kit box which has password lock. Lock it up and leave at your parents. If I were you, I would have burnt the book. Man, its so risky to pen down every chapter of your life. A book is always an open book, so be careful.
Other things like your diet plan, I dont think there must be much hullabulla about that, you must inform them openly as its highly impossible to hide your diet plans from a family. For other things, am sure a newly wed couple would be given their own room Get a suitecase with passlock initially until you get comfortable with the cupboards:thumbsup

 

Tell me about secracy.. after marraige i thought cupord was the safesr place to keep stuff... just a visit outside and came back to see tht cupbord was well scanned by MIL & SIL ... so there went my privacy down the drain.... i started keeping stuff in my hand bag dono wen tht will be attacked !

 

That was the first thought that came to my mind too! That's a news to me.

 

please tear the dairy becoz it may make life miserable for silly things, dairy is not important ur life is important, about dieting,homeopathy remedies tell them openly no need to hide, we cant hide them for long time some or other day they get revealed unknowingly they may misundertand u.

 

I grew up in a household where parents taught us importance of giving privacy by respecting ours.

Cannot imagine anyone going through others stuff private or otherwise without permission.