How To Improve Father Daughter Relationship

Friends
In great need of your valuable inputs

Daughter is 7 years old..since she was small,hubby took care of the disciplining and eating part ..of course we too handle it,but he requested us not to be harsh on her and he alone will take care

He loves her a lot and does interact with her ,takes her out etc etc ,the usual fatherly activities

But somehow my daughter dint gel very well with him

He doesn't behave strictly other than for the disciplining factor and food intake (She is extremely fussy)..

But when grand parents are there,she becomes totally different ..doesn't even go to him or responds to him,behaves rude or shows angry face..i feel if given a choice ,she might never even go to him..he calls her often,asks her to sleep with him..plays with her ..takes her out..does everything but sometimes she plays but mostly doesn't want to even sleep next to him..this behaviour i feel she has it inside but shows wen gp come

Whenever I try explaining her calmly ,she accepts her mistake but keeps repeating..Even I have started scolding her wrt food intake and disciplinin part thinking since he is doing it more,it creates problem ..but still their relationship has not improved

My husband and i are extremely sad /worried because of this

Please help

 

Is there no one to help

 

Thanks for responding madras
I believe my post has made a bad impression on us wRt parenting


Let me clarify

We are not assuming and we are not such parents who blindly believe what others say...we give her the space to explain things from her side and then we explain her softly ..scolding is something that happens later..and there are some discipline which as parents we neEd to teach them ..this again we did not scold her from the very moment it started but did it pretty late when she dint show any improvement

I spend good amount of time and talking with her..I make her understand the reasons..which almost all times she agrees she did a mistake..again I have never forced her to accept and neither do I scold her..and she not moving close with her father is not something that has been happening recently and we did give her loads of time to come back ..only wen that did not happen we as parents asked her again not scolded her

I have not heard about this ..I don't see this type of behaviour with my husband anytime..again let me quote these things are not happening only at this age,but before too

I m not sure what makes u come to a conclusion that we are not giving her space or respecting her feelings .. I cannot explain everything here...but NO WE ARE NOT SUCH PARENTS AS YOU THINK

Changes I accept has to happen from both sides and these are the tips I m expecting out of this thread..

You have totally misunderstood my post.

Will do for sure if nothing works ..after all my daughter and our relationship with her is my utmost importance and responsibility

These words are totally mean ... sorry but you have not understood my post ..I cannot explain everything here aNd you can never judge my parenting based on one post .
Don't hurt people based on your wrong assumptions

 

Thank you for responding
I have been doing those but don't see any improvement
Anyways I will not stop doing that

 

thanks for understanding @madras2018

 

thanks for taking time and responding @sumzaya
she is not a reserved of girl,not even with my husband..she talks freely,goes to an extent of scolding him as well..and if he was wrong,he would ask sorry and accept it...so we have given her all her own space as well as loads of love and freedom because of which she is able to scold her dad as well

No, we dont focus only on discipline and we are not parents who scold her for everything..we let her be and do what she likes to...

grandparents too see this difference and they too help..but sadly not working..

I do keep talking to her,take it light when she is in a good mood during which time she accepts that her behaviour should be changed