Hi All, I am a silent reader of this forum, till now i got tons of useful info here. Today i want to post my problem, please give me suggestions. I am married 5 yrs back and we are a joint family. My DH has one elder brother and elder sis. My BIL and Co sis are not in a permanent job and my BIL always expects some financial help from my DH. My SIL along with her kid stays with us and her H stays away with their parents, they dont even talk to each other atleast once in a week. So called reason for my SIL to stay with us is her in-laws place (which is very remote) do not have good education facilities for her son. Not sure what is behind the curtains, my family never involved me in any discussions or decisions required for the house , my DH too hides things from me sometimes. so, indirectly my SIL and her son are also dependent on 2 brothers which means max share is on my DH. Me and my DH work in same company and moved to US 2 yrs back. I do not have any emotional stress or family problems as such, my DH also takes good care of me. I am worried about the amount of money we spend on my BIL and SIL families, when ever we go on vacation to India we buy them lot of gifts (very expensive) and still each time they expect more from us. I was not worried until now as we were only 2 of us but now we are expecting a baby, so really worried abt our baby's future that he/she might not get all facilities deserved. My DH is always happy to spend money for his family, he never thinks of his savings. Can any please suggest me how to stop my DH spending money on his brother and sister and their Kids, now they are in secondary high school, they are planning to to do their further studies in US, that means completely dependent on us. Please suggest.