how to deal with in laws.......

What's the problem here?
Your in-laws are supportive about career & they are okay with staying at your parent's house. That's great. Finish your exam tension free.

I think when you are married that's your house too. Why don't you do complete cleaning of the house & make things clean. Frankly no one likes a unclean house, they don't find time to clean. When it comes to priority , cleanliess comes later than cooking food or washing clothes. Show her how can the house be kept neat,offload some responsibility from her & i think it will work out. You may not succeed immediately, but eventually you will.

I think any husband will get annoyed if his wife stay's at parent's house for some reason or other. I think problem & solution lies with you.

 

Hi cpriyanka,
Better get used to it. Its the same with me too. Some people are just like that..She even mentioned to me that a house must look like it is lived in and not like a spic and span house where one will feel guilty to sit down and crumple the sheets...can u imagine that.

Initially I used to go around and clean up, but my MIL used to pass snide/hurtful remarks and I used to end up getting depressed as I am not able to say anything back even though I know she is passing wrong comments. Nowadays, I dont bother to clean up when she is around me...I take it up when she is not around and keep myself busy with other work when she is around

.I used to get compliments from everyone regarding my spic n span house..as all my free time I used to end up cleaning and not chitchatting about neighbors...Now if anybody comes into our house, its a total mess..I usually avoid getting anyone at home now. Its a price I pay to keep peacefullness at home.

 

Hi dear..learn to ignore! That's wat I will tell you after being married for an year and having a nagging MIL! My MIL is although nice, but she is a nagging lady which I can't help. She has her own ideas on how house should be..I am also particular abt things being organized and neat, whereas she will clean things (washing curtains, dusting etc.) but keep them disorganized and she will give me lectures on how to maintain cleanliness in the house (and she is the one who walks on bedroom carpet in outside slippers!!)
I do what I can and ignore rest all stuff..as u said they are supportive of ur career so do wat u can and rest all u learn to ignore..and don't fight with ur hubby!

 

Hi Priyanka

You are lucky that your in laws & dh are supporting for your studies. You should focus & complete your studies at your parents place without any stress. Donot fight with mil for cleanliness or anything. After you finish your studies get job for yourself and save money for new home. You can keep your own room clean the way want. If you work full time you will be at home only minimum time and you will have your own saving too. So be careful in these initial marriage days, bond nicely as much as you can.