Dividing property and sharing income are two different problems. I think your mother is being impatient. You are having a kid after a long struggle. At this point either tell your mom that you don't want to interfere in your husband's property matter or involve your dad to calm her down. Why spoil the happiness of the family at this moment ? if you get the property like land it is hard to manage from different state without considerable effort from your husband . What is your take on income sharing ? Are you going to decline if offered ?