I'm so upset right now. The issue might be tiny but disturbing me as I want to settle things down in a diplomatic way without hurting anyone. Wise ladies here can give me some sense on how to deal with this. A little on my background, I've been married for 7 years. DH is a great man. He has an elder brother. My mil, bil, cosis and their 12 year old daughter live together in a different state and me and hubby live in a city where both of us are working (Now I took a break from work). My Fil expired when my bil and dh were kids. My in laws are great human beings and we are all emotionally connected. My Bil is a farmer and looks after all the joint property. My parents live in the same city as us and both my mom and dad are still working. My parent's is an well educated and metropolitan kind of lifestyle and in a way, little materialistic. 7 years after marriage, now am pregnant with twins and both side families are very happy. But since a month or so, my mom has been pestering me with something. My mom started off saying as am pregnant with twins, I have to get extra smart with managing my finances. I was initially confused, as both me and dh are earning well, have decent savings and wondered what made her feel we are not smart in managing finances. She then proceeded to say, "It's been 7 years and all the income that you have to get on the joint property, like on farming lands, rents etc are being enjoyed only by your bil and cosis, it's high time you ask for your share of income on joint property too." I brushed her off saying me and dh earn very well and also, we earn more than what my bil earns on the property. Also, my bil takes care of mil and all her expenses, like medical and general. We (me and dh) are not at all interested on that income. Things are going just fine and let them be. My mil and bil previously, 5 years ago asked about income sharing on the property and asked us to have our share. But we told them as we are earning well and mil's expenses are being taken care of, we don't want to think about dividing property anytime soon. But my mom keeps repeating this issue with me and that started disturbing me. I know my mom and she wasn't being cunning. She was just concerned that by not claiming our share of income on joint property, we might end up not getting our share property. I know my in laws as well, one hint and they'll happily give away our share. But me and hubby are not comfortable asking for the share, mainly because the share of income we might get on property may not make much difference to our life style, but it may effect my in laws. I don't know how to handle the situation. After 2 months, I would be leaving to my mom's house for my delivery and I know she will keep on poking this issue and I can not be harsh on her. I told her repeatedly that it's my hubby's call on his property and am not dictating him decisions. I told her that it doesn't make us much difference as we are earning well. But she says it's not about the income on property, but the property itself which is a big deal and my kids might not get their share. My heart and brain knows nothing of that sort might happen, but the repeated arguments between me and mom are giving me sleepless nights. My hubby knows about this but he doesn't know the severity and frequency with which my mom's forcing me to ask my in laws. I sometimes feel like screaming not to interfere in my married life, that she might unknowingly end up breaking happiness in my and my in law's home as this is a sensitive issue, and we are just happy the way we are. But then I can't be rude to my mom and can't even talk to her in loud voice. In general she is a good human being, but she's making deductions out of what she has seen in her life, with her in-laws, which is a complete different scenario and different story. How should I be handling this without hurting anybody??