hello ladies , I have brought up in India where we are very close with our neighbors almost like extended families .. 3 families like that .. we as Kids used to spend lot of time with neighbors .. so they are more than relatives for us .. this is the story until we grow up.. now all of us are married now just hi or bye on WhatsApp.. fine Now living in us .. my husband is reserved less taking .. he just minds his own business can’t socialize with anyone or mingle . He finds issues with every person so my life went in US Without any friends from last 7 years .. Now after having kids I realized I need to start sociolizig with others .. so when we bought a home I choose desi community here .. 90% are desi’s so I thought kids and me can get few friends .. Coming to this community all are good ( may be I assume ) friendly initially .. I used to talk with them very nicely .. husband still same ... he never comes outside or talked with neighbors .. he says hi bye while entering Home if they are out side .. Now my issue is I see these families 7 to 8 are might be excluding us .. not sure why I felt like that .. they had a get together we are not invited ..2 families celebrated birthdays not invited .. I felt bad .. they smile and talk nice If am outside .. I have invited them for my kids birthday even before they excluded me but they dint show up saying out of city .. Am not feeling bad about not inviting for get together but kids birthday party .. Am clueless .. I can’t change my husband can’t make him gel with them .. can’t expect neighbors to invite me n kids it’s their wish I understand ..but it’s bothering me since my kids wants to play and attend birthday parties .. Few major parties I attended ..I see them talking in groups where I feel like I dint have anything to talk .. all topics are around costly latest cars latest dresses beauty products restaurants movies . How to get over this feeling ..? How to make neighbors to include us too even though hubby is not getting mingled with them .. Note : I heard people used to make friendship based on how rich you are ..? Based on what cars you have .. have seen them talking about few costly cars they own .. where as we lead low peofile here though we dint maintain costly cars we have decent cars .. As I said they talks nice in front of me I don’t have any negative feelings about them .. so wanted to make friendship with them so that my kids can have friends around the home .. Am full time working mom with two kids one toddler .. so any suggestions how to deal or mingle with these neighours .