I am a 30 year old female, working and living alone in the US for nearly a decade at this point. I haven't had much luck in terms of relationships. My parents, who are quite self-confessedly conservative, would like to see me married. The irony is that they also wanted me to be highly educated and independent. Anyway, they now believe that they made a mistake in waiting too long in getting me married, and they want to get very aggressive in terms of looking for arranged matches. They did try to find matches for me earlier too, but I was able to turn them down, and since I was still in grad school then, my parents didn't push very hard then. However, according to them, I don't have any reasonable excuses left anymore. They are putting considerable emotional pressure on me, asking me to return to India, or to cooperate with them etc. I get blamed for every negative interaction with any random guy off a matrimonial website. At this point, I'm honestly so burnt out that I just want this all to stop. I don't want to get married. And I am so tired of men. I am tired of men always messing up my life. I am happy right now. I don't see what marriage with any of these men could possibly add to my life. If anything they are just going to make me miserable. They are rude, controlling, and demeaning. And my personality is quite unsuited to a traditional Indian arranged marriage setup. In fact most of the people that I've spoken to via these matrimonial websites have told me that I'm too outspoken for a woman, and that I need to behave in a more feminine manner (which is a discussion for another time). Plus I have never really wanted to have children. I have been communicating this very directly to my parents. But they seem to act like if they keep ignoring it, I'll have to give up and do as they say. To be honest, when I was younger I would give in to pretty much all of their demands after fighting for a while, so a lot of this is my fault. So, my questions are: 1) People who are parents, how would you deal with your child telling you that they don't want to get married, and that they would like you to stop trying to "help"? Would you ever be able to accept this from your children? I am asking this just to understand if I should expect my parents to keep fighting me on this forever. 2) Any suggestions in dealing with my parents diplomatically? They are my only family. I'd rather not hurt them more than I absolutely need to. But, I'm also not going to get married to someone I can't even have a normal conversation with to make them happy.