How to calm down and maintain peace...i'm too anxious

I feel sorry for you dear. How long have you been married ? and how supportive is your hubby ? If you have supportive husband , that is all it should matter. Ignore everyone else , i know its not easy. I myself had baby after 10 yrs of being married, in my case it wasn't because of the problems with conceiving but because of mutual decision of me and my hubby. There were so many ppl intervening/asking/questioning about us not having baby but since i live in UK , i didn't get to hear that directly much. Once my PILs went to astrologist who said we could never have baby and they told that to me , i got upset and worried , my husband that time took initiative and asked my PILs(through his sister) not to tell such stuffs to me. And since then i never heard any taunt about baby from my ILs ever. That was one best thing my hubby did for me which i still appreciate. SO i would say , ask your hubby to tell his parents not to talk to you about baby and ignore whole world who just dont have anything else to do and keep an eye on others personal life.

 

Pls dont be so upset.. It's not at all an easy situation you r facing and all these remarks are affecting you too much.. Remember one thing, no matter what you do, you wil have some remarks from ppl.. If you had a baby, you wouldve heard different type of remarks bout what you r doing or not doing or how good mothers don't do something or something else.. So there is not much you can do bout these remarks except ignore them.. Some ppl may have good intentions too but since you r getting upset, learn to handle these situations tactfully.. Just smile n say it will happen when right time comes n don't give any further explanations if you feel someone is interfering.. After doing it a few times ppl will realise its out of bounds..

Regarding ur crying excessively, I feel you should meet a counsellor.. They are completely non judgemental and help you get a better perspective of the situation.. Don't worry, this will also pass.. Wish you all the best..

 

Find a good fertility specialist - both you and H go for consultation and follow the therapy properly (both of you since unless they diagnose, they wont know who the issue is with). Thats the main thing you focus. Rest of the noise, ignore it as noise.

 

hi generic, 2 of my cousins suffered like this and consulted a fertility centre. By then my grandpa jumped in the scene and given them 2 tips.
1. consume pomengranete daily in empty stomach
2. grind 50-100 gm of dry kismis and mulethi (in hindi. adhimadhuram in tamil) as a fine paste in water, mix with milk and eat during your periods.

above mentioned are natural and wont give any side effects. It is proven to cure all uterus related problems. Both were conceived within 3 months time.
My prayers for you as well.

Share the good news soon @generic

 

I really feel sad to hear about you. But at the same time I was feeling someone said write about me or my situation. Even my relatives, in-laws, random people ask me these questions... good news kabhi doge? kitne maje karoge aab.
MIL says kam se kam hume pota dekhane ka sukh to do....

Especially during any festival or function it's terrible situation. MIL ask panditaji to give her blessing hume jaldi pota mile


Crying is no solution. Ya I know inside pain,the feeling that you feel. But we have to keep going.
I wish your situation will improve soon.

 

@Rith That's great ..Thanks for sharing ..can you please say how much qty of mulethi should be taken . That whole 50gm dry kismis & mulethi should be taken in one day and continue for 4days. Is that too be consume in empty stomach . Please share one of my cousin is trying to conceive

 

Take 500gm of dry kismis and mulethi. grind as fine powder. Take 50 - 100gm daily, mix well in water and milk and drink. proportion of milk and water i will check with my grandma and let you know

 

Dear Rith, Even i am sailing in the same boat, besides my MIL is such a cunning lady, she every day keeps hurting me saying some thing or the other, usually she starts with some topic and indirectly scold me and directly my father in law such a way that the message of pricking reaches my ear. she was doing with the baby topic and now started on some other thing as well as of hurting me everyday, such that what ever i do will be transformed as wrong stuffs and comment or scold on that indirectly because she cant tell anything to me directly as i would bash her back if she says anything directly to me.

for this natural formula, can i take it along with allopathy medicines that docters have given to take daily?