How to bring in an emotional attachment & sound understanding in our marriage??

can you cite some examples of the lovely-things-turned-unlovely?
try to clear those prejudices by your actions/reactions as evidence and gain back the sentiments.

 

Its a mutual process, unless the other person is keen, you can play only Solitaire.

 

well,no use comparing your life with that of your cousins & friends........they have their own problems of which you may not have any idea.........

what I understand that in past he used to find your ego,anger etc charming but now he doesn't ....is that so(your post is not very clear but that is what I deduce)
say,you find a joke worth laughing one time.........you hear it again & smile...3rd time still you manage a thin smile but then 4th time it gets boring ......I hope you got that.....somethings can be charming only few times & not life long.........

its your own life & you are the best judge to find what is wrong & how can it be made right.....if your crying irritates him then stop that.............what is wrong with sharing with friends & relatives & not with hubby......afterall women understand better then men(even our hubby) what is bothering us.........so if you can lighten your stress talking to friends then its good...........you can concentrate better on married life.

 

Hi Pavitra ,

Just give it time n hope things pan out better way . Because after few years of marraige i found my husband equally practical and self thinking most times , guess some think that way. The only way out I could think so was bid time and hope sooner or later theres a bit of change , weeping about things would drive him angry is what i thought. So better just ride the things out and hope things turn out good in near term.

 

Time doesn't stand still.

As days pass, Relationships are bound to change.

Could you honestly list down a few things you have done to keep your marriage happier?

 

Well, first thing which has to be kept in mind is, "Never compare your life with others" :notthatway: This will only make us unhappy...

This worked for me... My husband never consoles me even if I am crying very badly right in front of him. He does not even make an attempt to ask the reason... He'll pretend as if I am not there... I used to go crazy at this attitude :spin

But as time passed, I have understood that he always somehow knows the reason for my weeping.. He makes sure he finds a solution for it but never tells it to anyone... He also does not tell me about it :hide:... But, he makes sure next time I'll not cry for that same thing

So, these days I just wait patiently for some weeks to get an answer for his silence

 

I learnt that there are 2 rules for a successful marriage:
1 rule actually (each for husband and wife)
.....Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself....
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands .... wife must respect her husband
Quoting from Bible - Ephesians 5
It might sound very tough (especially the submission part for women), but if a husband does his part - loving his wife as his own self, and the wife does her part - submit and respect her husband, i believe they can have paradise.
Regards,
Padmalatha.K

 

Dear pavitra, our story seem to be d same......we have a love marriage too arranged by parents but lack of understanding and confidence in each other is what we r facing. We'll I guess d reason in my case hAs been repeated fights over n over again
i guess relation between husband n wife are too sensitive n we really need to be conscious bout our words fr each other.....
and I guess being cheerful n chirpy n very presentable also will help.
lets just be particular that we take care of his likings and act and talk more of dose subjects.......
lets be connected more frequently discussing d same
hope vr able t help each other and ourselves