How To Behave Now?

There is this policy I follow with a crowd that I'm not too comfortable it. Its called " Out of sight Out of mind"
Which mean, I Initiate the conversation even if they don't initiate. When I see them, I talk very nicely with " Oh such a long time, we haven't met" continued with a " Sure, we should meet more often" with the ending " It was so great to meet you guys" . I never say " Oh, I will call, text or let's catch up" its always agreeing with them. and never call text or be available to meet.

It's always better not to have a hostile situation as life is short and the world is small.

 

Just be cheerful.
No one will bring up the past in a birthday party

 

What do you have to worry about ? Put on a smile, say your hi and hello’s , enjoy the cake and pizza ! Don’t overthink this !

 

Since it is a kid's birthday party, there are going to be many other kids right? Probably you could hang out with the other kiddos along with yours and try to involve. Strike up a kiddie conversation, crack jokes or even lend a hand if you can like for distributing return gifts, candies or food. That way you'd be mingling with the kids or perhaps even the other adults and also having a nice time for yourself. The company of children is always amusing!

Remember to delight yourself first, then others can be truly delighted!

 

OP
I understand the feeling of being left out as you are not part of the so called group. Go with a smiley face. Keep short and sweet talks with everyone about whereabouts. Also keep the time short like go little late or come back little early and prepare for some reason incase you are questioned. Get involved in your lo like make him play. Also there might be guests other than the group. So try to spend time with them too by intiating some conversation.

 

Go to the party on time, give a useful nice gift to the kid.
Talk formally like how you do to distant relatives on a common wedding/function.
Let your kid mingle with other kids... Let them play.
Behave as if nothing happened.
Return early from the party. Don't over stay.

 

Most of the times things don't happen the way we imagine it to be. Since it is a party, with so many people around, everyone gets involved in some talks or activities. Just say a hi to people you know. And engage yourself like watching how kids play, take a note on how the party things were arranged, or ask the hosts if they need some help. Try not getting into chatting with people you are not comfortable with. People avoid discussing issues, problems, personal matters, opinions in get together. So don't worry. Enjoy your time!

 

Even if you see them passing comments, just ignore! A matter of couple of hours in your life. Not worth worrying ..