Hi All, Need some suggestions for a challenging problem. Married for 8 with yrs with a 2year old baby. We as a husband and wife have lots of problems for which obviously his parents and brother are responsible. Reason being DH gets easily influenced. Initially it was just his family which was impacting our marriage. After 1.5 years of our marriage one of my uncle invited both my DH and my Bil (Sister's Husband) to his room in a hotel. This meeting has put up my life and my sisters life in hell. Not sure who initiated the conversation and what was spoken then, they spoke all nonsense, rubbish, lies what not. This has a deep impact on my husband. To summarise, both my uncle and my bil brain washed my husband against me and my family. Every now and then hell breaks loose in both the houses because of this. And both of them take each others reference in fights in their respective houses. If any function or something comes up from my family, what these guys do is immediately call up each other and seek clarification. They would then exchange their opinions which is obviously completely negative things about each others wives and my mom (I dont have father). I have confronted my husband so many times on this, all he says is that its perfectly ok as I talk all the things with my sis and mom. My bil is very good in manipulation and lying and he knows what my husband wants to hear and says exactly those things which satisfies my husbands ego. On the other hand, my husband calls him up whenever he needs to know any information about my family and he too influence him with feudalistic and male chauvinistic thoughts. Offlate we have observed that both of them are on the same page on certain things. 1. They hate me, mom and sis meeting together 2. They try their best to avoid we three meeting 3. They try hold their kids from meeting my family (which ofcourse they fail) My mom stays with my sis and supports her family to the core. Inspite of that by bil bad mouths my mom with my husband lying that she wants to control her daughters and she is spoiling his daughter. Listening to all this my husband has developed a bad impression and just maintains minimal relationship with them. On the contrary my husband knew to some extent that my bil lies, but still contacts him and will discuss with him whatever happens in my house. I have seen messages on whatsapp my bil calling my mom "Ring Master", and husband calling all three of us "Psychos". It has pained me a lot. The situation is so grim that any word here and there would shake away both the families. My bil, has taken a lot of money from me before marriage and has not returned it fully. He took money from my mom too. His family is so manipulative and his sister interferes and all the affairs so much that my bil fights quite often with my sis by getting influenced by them. They take the life out of him for money. Every 2 months or so he has to give money in bulk to his dad and sis. All this sh**t from his family side is not shared to my husband. On the other hand, my great dh also doesnt speak about his great mom and bro, who tried to crumble our married life and how his mom till date expects to be treated as the first lady in his life. Now a days whenever some arguments comes up I openly tell my DH to call my BIL and update so that he will also agree and bitch about his wife, which shuts him up temporarily. Recently we had to visit our aunt who underwent surgery. Both of them complicated the situation so much that we had to drop the idea as it would make the situations even more complex going further. Please suggest how can I make my husband the reality and limit his conversation with bil. Based on the replies for this post, I can give more info and examples on this.