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How Often 'fear Of Unknown ' Strikes You ?

Discussion in 'Healthy Living' started by silentlistener, Apr 15, 2019.

  1. silentlistener

    silentlistener Silver IL'ite

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    Everything is going on normal ..you have a good sleep , good appetite , nice initiative to do routine work nd no major depressive ideations.


    But at times especially in late evenings or before falling asleep you feel intense fear of unknown followed by palpitation .....this intense fear the crops up but you cannot reconnect any reasons for it .....It stays for a few minutes, causes profound disturbance .


    how often do you experience it ? if so how do you handle it ?
     
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  2. ashwinid01

    ashwinid01 Gold IL'ite

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    Very often.. Especially when i have happy days... it's like i am looking for opportunity to be worried.. peaks up when my kids/husband are having minor health glitches.
     
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    silentlistener Silver IL'ite

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    Okay. How do you get out of it ( the intense fear of unknown) ?
     
  4. Amica

    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    Embrace it! I know it sounds trite, but where's the fun in knowing what the future holds? Life is an adventure, enjoy it. :thumbsup:
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    Not unknown fear but rather an intense worry. I separate the impact of that intense worry into two parts: physical and mental. The physical part such as palpitation is relieved by changing posture, moving arms or other motion, deep breaths and maybe a glass of water. The mental part is dealt with by a talking to self, a reminder of all the good stuff, and a reminder that worry never helps.

    The key is like you stated, it "stays for a few minutes" so it comes and goes. More of an annoyance.
     
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    Viswamitra IL Hall of Fame

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    Intuitions are sometimes stomach churning and other times a pleasant feeling for no reason. It creates a temporary vibration to both body and mind and we need to endure them. Logic or rational thinking doesn't work with intuitions. It is like heart flash or migraine and they come and go.
     
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    Surprisingly, I had more fear of living my life when everything was on track and i lived with my husband in a marriage that looks great on paper. Right now, I should be terrified, yet I am finally feeling balanced.

    What changed? I prioritized myself in my life- my mental health actually. Now, I can focus on being a good parent and a better person.

    Fear of uncertainty is normal, though we are often taught that we shouldn’t be uncertain. Once you accept that uncertainty, that everything is temporary, you can enjoy life to its fullest - even when you enter dark phases of your life. Recently, I became homeless, jobless, and with no parental support- left with just my son. The people i have encountered in this phase of my life...truly godsent. I have learned a lot and my priorities have changed. I am sure things will improve.

    I felt the “fear of the unknown” the most when my parents abandoned me... but it’s all part of growing up. I forgive them for their actions and I hope one day they forgive me for mine.
     
  8. Sandyr46

    Sandyr46 Finest Post Winner

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    Right now am standing at the same zone as you Bhumi. But am determined to change everything. Everything denied and taken from me is what I am gonna retrieve back. That fear of unknown has passed. Here I am still standing after every stone my people have thrown in me. They mocked me for being a woman, on my age everything and now I am building myself to be back. So no more fear of the unknown. I know it wont b bright n shiny n beautiful n blah but who needs that. I have me and as long as I can take care of this 'ME' nutin can ever fall apart :)
     
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    I get this too. How often ? I never noticed. But quite often. N it affects you both physically n mentally for those few mins. It’s a fear of so many things, what if I lose everything I love, what if this happens, that happens, what will happen, what will I do, do I deserve anything good, so on, mostly all negative n worrisome.

    How do I handle? Calm myself, count backwards, deep breath, watch- read- do something, distract myself. I tell myself ‘day quota are done for the negative thoughts / worrying, now relax’. It mostly lasts for a few mins n goes away once I calm down.

    I mostly blame it on our “always over working” female brain. We generally over think everything. That’s both good n bad. But it’s our skill. Now n then when it gets a bit out of control, we need to just calm it.
     
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    Excellent description! This feeling is more common than you might realize. Existential angst when you're feeling philosophical, a formless fear of the unknown when you're not. Sometimes we experience intensely the solidity of things and at other times their evanescent insubstantiality. Sometimes we are blinded by the light, and sometimes there are shadows everywhere.
    I remember some Zen teacher saying that all emotion is a combination of thought and physical sensation. You have it exactly right - some inchoate dread (thought) accompanied by palpitation (sensation) or tightness in the stomach or even nausea. Consider that it perhaps does not need 'handling'. Non-judgemental awareness is all that is required. Be aware of your thought bubbles as they well up. Pay close attention to bodily sensation. Label them - "I am afraid", "my heart is beating faster". Stay with it. Stay in your body. Watch it well up, watch it subside. Just that. Over time you will realize that it is all psychosomatic vaporware.
     
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