How Much Is Too Much?

Recently I read an article where the lady is a wife of a person who is a millionaire. Her story is very disheartening.

Before marriage when the couple were dating the guy ensured that the bill was split equally each and every time when they went out. He ensured that she paid him the money inspite of him being rich. He always chose cheap places so that they could spend less money. She ignored the red flags before marriage.

But even after marriage he ensured that all the bills were split equally among both including groceries and hospital bills. And even after kids the same thing continued. The money the husband was earning was no where comparable to that of wife. She mentioned that he never gifted her anything even for birthdays, anniversary or Christmas.

That person never helped anyone even in need including his siblings and other family members and close friends.

The husband not only controlled his money but even his wife’s money. Wife got really frustrated and asked him for this behaviour. His reply was always that , “Saving money is essential for rough times”

There are many such husbands who are very stingy and misers, but isn’t there a limit on how much to save and how much to spend?

How fair it is for the husband to control his wife’s money inspite of he earning millions together? Is it ok for one partner to control his partner even if he/she is balancing spending and saving the money?

I feel that saving money is very much essential , but doesnt mean that you should not enjoy every now and then.
Anything too much is too bad!

 

True there should be an agreement regarding it even if it’s for children.
Else it conflicts both of them

 

So true