I am looking for a groom for one of my relative girls to her second marriage. I have registered her name in a matrimonial site and I feel very disappointed with the responses. my cousin has a girl baby and that has become a very big issue here. those who are NRI (esp in USA and UK),and in India those who are well settled and have good money reject these girls immeidately. they dont want to even know about these girls where they are from and what they are doing. having a kid in marriages in India is still not in the hands of the girls. the inlaws want kids immediately after marriage and many couples dont plan for anything. (in my cousin's case also she became pregnant in the same month of her marriage. just one year she lived with her husband.) and I see guys here waiting so long with these rules. I see a guy more than 3 yrs(I am the one who is registering all my relatives names in the matrimoney site and help in marriages) who is now nearing 40. also seeing a set of guys who come with so many rules and later changing "doesnt matter, no problem....etc". why are they wasting all wonderful years in life like this? the years wasted are wasted only , they never come again. having so many rules and keeping a perfect picture for a wife can save a marriage? marriage is full of compromises in my view. nobody would have got satisfied 100% with thier partners. we accept the plus and minus of the partners and live life happily. I just wanted to tell these to girls who are in hurry to get divorced and guys who are not ready to compromise even in second marriage. I am upset to see my cousin who is very much younger than me living alone and have vent out here. may be there is an other side for this. ready to accpet and waiting to see others opinions too.