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How Do You Address Your Ex-inlaws?

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by BhumiBabe, Jul 26, 2019.

  1. BhumiBabe

    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    So, I will forever have to interact with my spouse and his parents, because we have a son together. We are not legally separated/divorced yet, but I don't foresee any reconciliation. My father-in-law, at least acknowledges me, while my mother-in-law tries her very best to ignore me and remain disdainful. Not surprising - I'm not at all offended. My issue is how to address them. I had been calling them Athai/Mama, and changing it to Aunty/Uncle feels a bit unnatural. I suppose it's the right thing to do, but what do you call your ex-inlaws?
     
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  2. Greenbay

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    I recommend addressing FiL as Mama and MIL as Mami. She is ignoring you, so why still address her as Athai.
     
  3. BhumiBabe

    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    Well, I don't call anyone Mami... it would be stranger to call her that. Maybe I should continue to address her through my son...
     
  4. Anusha2917

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    First I would say avoid situations of addressing them all together.

    When a situation comes where you can't avoid then address as "sunny's" paati/thatha . (sunny is just the name I have assumed for your son)
    When you are referring them to someone say : to you mom you can refer as "Ramesh's" mummy/daddy. Ramesh is again my assumption of your hubby's name.
     
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    MalStrom Platinum IL'ite

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    Why not ask them how they want to be addressed? If your MIL is ignoring you then one less problem for you to worry about how to call her.
     
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    Sandyr46 Finest Post Winner

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    My in-laws really adore me, although my own mother hates me. Infact my ex doesnt share a great rapport with his dad as his father remarried (in his 50's) and my ex hates his wife. Somehow all the while he ignored I stayed in touch with them and so they insist I consider them as my own parents. So I just address them as mummy and daddy. They adore their grandson and I spend vacations at their place as well.
     
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    Yea, this definitely feels like the safest approach.
     

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