How Do U Manage In Such Situations.

Good to hear you are feeling better . Since it has been affecting you so much , what's the need to talk to MIL often? Once a week is also bit of a overkill IMO, specially when it is about others gossip. Focus on yourself and the baby.
Let the FIL and MIL be grumpy about it, once the baby comes you will be super busy. Nothing else will matter . Take care !!

 

That is quite some problem you face.

You seem to be a sensitive person and probably your pregnancy has made you even more so. You need to protect yourself and your unborn child from this stressful scenario. Would strongly suggest you to take up 'Louise Hay'. She believes in the power of positive thoughts. Not just that, let everyone in the family know about it.

Tell all and sundry that you want to expose yourself only to positive thoughts and conversation as much as possible. Someone in your network is bound to poke fun, if only in a good-natured manner. You could then narrate the same to your MIL how for the good of yourself and your child you are trying something new and it upsets that others don't take it seriously enough. I am hoping that including her in the 'be positive and think positive' project would make her think twice about bitching about others to you. In my experience people try to do their best when you explicitly ask for their help

Here's hoping!

 

Extreme steps ?? Why is he threatening your mother ? I hope your husband knows what his father is upto. ( let me guess, like most men he thinks that his parents could do no wrong).
Please let your husband know that all this stress is not good for the baby, so for your baby's sake he has to handle the situation . And under all circumstances stay back here , far away from them. I cannot imagine living with people like these.
I talk to my in laws only to wish for their anniversaries /birthdays / festivals or if they are unwell . The more you indulge with in laws, more chances they have to let you know how terrible and unworthy you are. Works best for me.

 

Sindmani, sorry don't mean to rile you up asking all the questions. Please ignore them. You seem to have made peace with the situation and are coexisting with them cordially. So I commend you for that. Focus on the baby and have lots of happy thoughts !! Take care.

 

Sindmani, looks like there is too much going on other than the issue of your MIL gossiping about others, which you have to listen and put up with. But, hearing all you said here in this quote like the PIL conspiracy against you, asking you to do things indirectly through your husband, Dh being too influenced by them etc, it seems to me that the MIL gossip is actually the safest talk for you to engage in with her to avoid all the conspiracy, complaints and to beat their agenda. Just listen to the gossip, how do you care, atleast you are not talking about your own family issues/ arguing? That way MIL will be content and not try to conspire against you and complain to your Dh. Gossip's good here think of it as watching Hindi drama serials with one those Mil's worried about the entire world

 

Well, on a light-hearted note, you could share your own "gossip" - like talking about stories/drama from the tv shows or books that you follow to your MIL, so you would have juicy details to talk about. If you don't like what she has to say, you can lead the conversation to things you like to talk about. Maybe if you talk enough, she would just give up trying to share her weird gossip and views.

Or maybe not...most MIL's are not so good about taking hints.