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Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by anika987, Sep 12, 2019 at 12:08 AM.

  1. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    This summa erukue..how many time I have faced it in the past 15 years!

    People can be so heartless..

    Sometimes I feel many think if they have a job,their life is perfect.There are other aspects of imperfections in their lives which we can tap but we aren’t that cruel

    Sometimes I feel I could say that am
    Working too but something stops me.,I end up telling the truth like a unmai vilambe
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    True..when I used to work before..
    Lot of Questions again..

    1) why not full time?
    2) such low salary?
    3) I feel bad u aren’t able to continue your hobbies anymore

    This is never ending
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    I told this once ..

    Immediately the reply” yeah we can afford to just that we want to be financially independent.cant imagine living in hubby salary”..

    Sometimes these people can’t even be shut up..

    But I have started calling them less and avoiding them
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    That true..

    Am looking for something worth it..
    Hubby says am not in a good state of mind now and wants me to relax..
    Will take a break from job hunt for a week and detox
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    What u say is True.Thank you.Right now I honestly prefer something which is part time and closer to
    Home and in a relaxed state of mind..

    I am still trying but right now taking a week break to clear my head
     
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    messedup Gold IL'ite

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    You need a real target. My situation was also very similar to yours. But I now have a specific target and working towards that. Some days are good and some are not so fruitful but still I am focused and giving all that I can. Need to move in a more planned way.
    Anxiety may take you to a more weird situation. Know what you really want to do for the rest of your life not just to keep others mouth shut.
     
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    ashwinid01 Gold IL'ite

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    @anika987 : Next time you meet your nosy neighbour before she says anything you tell her "Hey xyz, i want get back to working, since you are working since so long and do so good, please refer me in your company.. ask your husband also please.. i will forward you my cv..".. She will never ever contact you.. trust me :)
     
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    ashneys Platinum IL'ite

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    Think about all the stress this ‘unmai’ Is causing you n try to change the way you reply to these people.

    Exactly what I meant.. nothing can please them..
    If you aren’t working, you aren’t independent
    If you are working, you are an absentee parent

    N like I said before, it will continue with the rest of the things in your life and your daughter too.
    Don’t show her your weakness, you don’t want your daughter to deal with her challenges like this, do you?

    Learn to manage these people Anika, that’s your only way out of this.
     
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    Afresh Gold IL'ite

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    Just say that " Guess , I am luckier" :clapclap:;)
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Super:)
     
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